I have OCD but my guest used the bathroom with a dirty toilet!

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I love a clean house, clean bathroom,everything has to be clean!We had guests round last night and one of them asked to use the guest bathroom. I had cleaned it before anyway but it might have been used after.
After the guest had left, I went to clean it and was horrified to see the toilet seat was left up and stains under the rim.This was not done by the guest as it was a quick in and out.(But they had used the toilet as seat was up).
I was mortified to say the least!I feel like I'm the only one in my house constantly cleaning as well as working and it really tires me out.
My DH uses that bathroom and I have always told him to clean it properly but its not as good as my cleaning.

Thank you for reading.

Have you actually got OCD?

No way would l be cleaning a toilet at night after guests had left.

Life is just to short….

It's a fairly clean toilet it doesn't really matter. I'd say unclench a bit. On the flip side...

OCD is a serious mental health illness that is usually managed by a GP community mental health team and psychiatrists so I suggest you raise this with them next time you see them as you will of course have regular appointments regarding managing this. Also you can talk about you medication. HTH

I just didn't want them to think I was dirty or lazy by not cleaning a toilet properly because I try to stay on top of my cleaning.

I would be mortified too OP. Love everything clean and tidy. But I don't think I have OCD.

Do you have OCD, or do you like a clean house? These are two very different situations.

OCD is more like you think your children will get poisoned because the rim is dirty even though they haven't been near it and you've cleaned it 7 times already but the thought won't go away.

I once rinsed a baking tray for over 30 mins because it had had oven cleaner on it and I was convinced it would poison my friends children (who weren't there). 🤣

So you do all the cleaning to a high standard but one area that is not your responsibility and is less clean because of someone else and you think YOU will be judged for it?

Do you always judge the women for housekeeping standards? You need to work on that. Let it go.

Well generally speaking if my husband told me to clean anything and then made it clear it wasn't up to his standards, I'd tell him to jog on and do it himself.

Perhaps your husband feels the same?

Horrified by the seat being up?
If you really have OCD, get help for it.
If you are just being hyperbolic, get a grip.
Just because your standards are higher than your husband's, it doesn't mean his are wrong. There is a happy medium between a loo you can eat your dinner off and a slovenly pit requiring horror and mortification!

Sympathies OP, I have a family member who has diagnosed OCD and it is so tough to get through day to day life with this horrific MH illness.
I hope that you are undergoing the treatment and medications.
How long have you had it? Are you able to use your coping mechanisms to turn this around? Hopefully it won’t trigger anything if you are on a good recovery.

Your family must be worried too, are you able to talk to them about something like this, so they know something has happened that may trigger a downturn?

Can you access your MH team to touch base?

I doubt they even noticed. Do you actually have diagnosed OCD? If not, you shouldn’t say that you do-it’s offensive to those who do. Just say you like clean house

I have diagnosed OCD and am medicated and in intensive psychotherapy.

If you have OCD then you will know this but it's more than just being embarrassed that your guest saw a shit stain. OCD is a mental prison and you where you think something awful -think your husband will die a painful death or your children will be struck down-if the guest sees the shit stain. If I interact with my trigger I have panic attacks unless I perform ritualistic behaviour.

Lots of people like a clean house and maybe it could be classified as mental illness, maybe it's a feature of extreme type A personality. But it's not the same.

It's not a big deal nobody had a perfect home 24/7. Even rich people with a team of maids you go into their home and find fake tan stains, puppy poo or pee that hasn't been cleaned or spotted yet.
My pet peeve is using serious mental disorders like depredssion and anxiety randomly and flippantly.

Sympathies doodlepants

I've had years of it too. I've just had nearly a year of CBT and can now confront some triggers but it's fraught with setbacks. I have to "tempt fate" literally every day it's exhausting work!

Being embarrassed by a dirty toilet does not mean you have OCD.

It means you are house proud.

If you do think you have a mental health illness please se a HCP.

I think I'd more embarrassed that I had self diagnosed myself with OCD.

@HangingOver yes, I'm also doing CTB through the NHS (and psychotherapy privately- my god is it not cheap) and it is good but utterly terrifying. How are you finding it? Some days I have a "f*ck it, I have nothing to lose" attitude and some days the compulsions win because I just need a break and not every day can be a battle.

I have OCD. I’m plagued by constant intrusive thoughts of my child dying in horrific circumstances, and I spiral into hours of compulsions like pulling my hair out and picking at my skin until it bleeds all night so I don’t sleep. It’s normal for me to do this for up to 4 hours at a time.

Have you spoken to your GP?

It wouldn't have mattered. The guest probably didn't even notice, and certainly wouldn't have cared.
This is about you and your mental health, OP, so p.ease seek support.