Contact from parents/others while away on holiday

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If you are away on holiday/for the weekend, do you expect to receive messages from your parents while you are away?

I’m almost 40, haven’t lived at home for a VERY long time and have my own life (job/kids/house etc). Usually when I’m at home working I’ll get maybe one text a day from my mum. A usual good morning type one. I tend to ignore many texts as she previously had a habit of texting me up to 30+times a day and the only thing that stopped it was just not replying.

I’ve noticed when I go away she ups her texts. “Are you there”, “what time are you leaving” “did you have dinner at the hotel” “are you doing to the beach today”. I’ve always taken the approach that I text people less when they are on holiday and leave them to their relaxing time. Is that what others do to? Or am I off base and is it normal to text people more and find out what they’re doing when they’re on holiday?

I mean I’ll ignore her texts because I’m not happy with the amount she texts, But I just wondered what is normal in other relationship?

Not normal, I never text anyone whilst they are on holiday unless they text me first! I would just ignore or temporarily block her and say you had no service.

DH gets lots of messages from his mum when we're on holiday - but I think this is because she's a v anxious person and worries a lot about everything being dangerous and catastrophic.

My mum does this- it's infuriating. She waits until I send her photos and then pounces with an inquisition maybe four messages. I told her to stop messaging and that I was on holiday doing normal holiday things and the messages were really annoying.

Also found her messages were really odd too. But I faiences to both our mums think they just want us to have nice time.

I set up a group chat with other relevant people who care about us and post an update and a picture everyday and ignore the stupid messages from my mum.

This group has become really good fun and every time I go away I change the name to the relevant place.

Can you temporarily block her or just tell her that you’re ignoring texts because you’re on holiday? Does she not have anyone to talk to at home?

I don’t think the words “normal” and “family” go in the same sentence, possibly not the same paragraph.

In this situation though, l wouldn’t respond until the early evening, maybe between returning from a day out and dinner.

Unless it’s an emergency, l don’t respond to social texts when away, either for work or on holiday.

If you are overseas (possible, as you reference the beach), depending on what network you are on, you may be paying to receive these messages. This has got worse since Brexit. In which case you need to explain this to family.

She has my dad, but doesn’t do anything or go anywhere by choice so her world is quite small.

My mum - no mobile so we chat afterwards on the phone
My PIL - similar to at home, if we have to talk about something. We aren't a family with daily messages or calls so a week with no contact is absolutely normal for us.

We may sent the odd photo if it's something we know they are interested in but that is maybe 1-2x during a two week holiday.

similar to others in that I’ll leave people alone if they’re on holiday, but happily text back if they text first. Family do the same.

Sorry OP that does sound hard. Are you an only child?

My own mother drives me crazy with this sort of behaviour. Day to day she doesn't know what I'm doing/where I'm driving to. If she catches whiff of a trip,especially to my in laws 4 hours away she's texting constantly, and (shock, horror!) Calling my MILs house phone to 'check if we've arrived'.

It's a jealousy thing in my case, but irritating nonetheless.
I now hide the calender when she comes over and mention as little as possible to her.

It's really annoying to be on holiday and be reminded of people/things at home isn't it?

Thanks everyone, seems that generally people don’t expect a lot of contact while they are away, so me feeling a little disgruntled is reasonable.

I think I’ll continue ignoring and reply sporadically when I want.

My messaging habits don’t really change on holiday, in my mum’s case I send the odd photo otherwise she’d want postcards which is a lot more effort (I do still occasionally send one). Sometimes sending a photo triggers a bit of chat but at a similar level to if we were at home. If any of my chat groups start pinging I might join in too, or reply to messages from individuals. But I’m not overwhelmed by them and not someone who finds it intrusive.

My DD WhatsApp’s every day on holiday …send photos of GCs …..I message my mum every day when I’m on holiday….she loves to hear from me ….every family is different 🤷‍♀️

She literally just text “where are you now”.
I’ve told her we are travelling home today. Why does she need to know exactly where I am right now. It’s because I replied. I should have ignored her earlier texts.