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This is bad, isn't it?

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NotNowMaryJane · 29/12/2023 01:38

Long story short. Back on dating scene after very long term relationship. Been talking to a man (he made first move).. seems nice..we've exchanged pictures and he keeps saying "I quite like you ".."I quite fancy you".. while I don't expect utter delight (I'm not all that, very very far from it) the use of the word "quite" makes me think he possibly doesn't really like me...it bothers me.. Thoughts?

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Britpopbaby · 29/12/2023 01:40

If you are having doubts at this stage and asking people on the internet I think you know what to do.

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NotNowMaryJane · 29/12/2023 01:46

Gosh, yes, you are probably right. Thank you.

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Whathappenstomyal · 29/12/2023 01:48

Bin him OP, you deserve someone who thinks you are great, even if you don’t think you are.

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NotNowMaryJane · 29/12/2023 02:01

Thank you.

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Starreyskies · 29/12/2023 02:11

Tell him you wish him the best but can't see this quite working out

Whathappenstomyal · 29/12/2023 02:12

Starreyskies · 29/12/2023 02:11

Tell him you wish him the best but can't see this quite working out

Like Bridget Jones, you are looking for something more extraordinary than that.

JingleSnowmanTree · 29/12/2023 02:14

Well, I wonder if it's a local thing? Like people from Yorkshire ( I think) say 'that'll do' meaning it's very nice?

Anotheronenearlydone · 29/12/2023 02:15

Don't some people use 'quite' as an old-fashioned way of saying 'very'?

TyneTeas · 29/12/2023 02:15

Quite has two different meanings though

In this context I would take it to mean really a lot rather them just a little bit

SequentialAnalyst · 29/12/2023 02:17

He's trying not to overdo it, perhaps? Thinking that too enthusiastic might be a bit off putting at this stage, but wanting to tell you he does fancy you.

flyingant · 29/12/2023 02:21

I 'quite' like you = I like you.
I 'quite' fancy you = I fancy you.
You're overthinking it.

FinanceLPlates · 29/12/2023 02:22

Is he a native (British) English speaker? I think “quite” is used to mean “very” in some dialects, especially American English.

Kitkatcatflap · 29/12/2023 02:33

My 16 year son does this - it's so annoying. I bought him a new jumper, he said he 'quite liked it'. I said I would return it and he was no I want it I like it.
Well say I like it need for the 'quite'. He does the same with food 'I quite like it'

If the man is giving you the ick then then it's done but maybe he is a bit clumsy and doesn't want to come across too try hard - hence the annoying 'quite'.

usedtobeasizeten · 29/12/2023 02:48

I prefer it to ‘super’ stuck on the front of everything!

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NotNowMaryJane · 29/12/2023 02:52

He's not giving me the ick at all. He keeps suggesting we chat, he approached me first, and he has said he wants to meet to see how we get on. I just can't get past the word "quite"..however, when and if he sees me that may be the least of my problems 😎

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Lemonfoxtrot · 29/12/2023 02:58

You are overthinking this.

the only way to know if he likes you ( quite or otherwise) is to meet him. Just go for a coffee / drink and see what you think.

Also, you could be agonising over the linguistic style of someone you don’t even fancy.

This is why meeting up in person is so much better. You’ll both know if it’s going anywhere

PaulAnkaTheDoggo · 29/12/2023 03:01

I’m a bad user of ‘quite’ when I mean more. ‘That was quite cute’ - that was friggin adorable. No other red flags, I’d give him a bash 🙂

WavingCatsandDogs · 29/12/2023 03:03

It's the internet, just meet him then take it from there.

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NotNowMaryJane · 29/12/2023 03:19

Thanks all 😊

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CryptidBunny · 29/12/2023 03:21

Doesn't for sure mean anything, he could just really like the word 'quite' or it could be a local thing from where he's from, I'd talk to him about it though not random people on the internet (no hate of course, I just don't think anybody in here can help honestly)

GodDammitCecil · 29/12/2023 03:23

If he said he ‘adored’ you this early on, it would be so obviously insincere, and a massive red flag.

I wouldn’t be writing him off just yet, IF you like him, and think he seems otherwise promising.

Whathappenstomyal · 29/12/2023 03:29

GodDammitCecil · 29/12/2023 03:23

If he said he ‘adored’ you this early on, it would be so obviously insincere, and a massive red flag.

I wouldn’t be writing him off just yet, IF you like him, and think he seems otherwise promising.

This. I missed the fact that they haven’t even met in person yet.

Trulywonderful · 29/12/2023 03:33

He may be just using the word 'quite' in order to not seem too keen. People are often threatened off if the other person is too keen. Therefore potentially the the guy is just a bit caught between a rock and a hard place with all this.

I would just be careful but not right him off quite yet.

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NotNowMaryJane · 29/12/2023 06:35

Thanks 😊

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Josette77 · 29/12/2023 06:45

I'm Canadian and use quite as one would use very.

So quite liking you would be liking you very much.

What does quite mean usually in this context?