I am divorced with 3 dc. I split from their dad when they were young and a few years later met someone else who I was with until recently. We didn’t live together but he was in my house a lot and when my kids were with their dad I went to his place. I work full time and am busy with dc so when I was with my ex p I enjoyed the odd evening alone when he was out with friends etc. however now that I am single again I find the time without my kids difficult. It’s not that I don’t have things to do - I could easily fill the time with housework, declutterring etc but I find things like that so boring. I go to the gym but that only takes an hour. I try to make arrangements with friends but sometimes they are busy, so I realise that I need to learn to enjoy my own company more.
any tips? As I said I used to enjoy the odd stretch of time to myself when I was in a relationship but now I don’t. It makes me feel a bit sad as if I should have something worthwhile to do during my time away from the kids, but I don’t, so I just ‘pass’ the time going for a walk/cleaning/ shopping etc.
i should also say that my ex doesn’t take the kids on a fixed schedule as his shifts vary week to week so it’s difficult to book a regular class or make arrangements too far in advance.