Can your parents understand you may have matured as a person?

[NeonToeNails]

My mum always always says that I am tight. I can only assume that this comes from when I was a skint student. However as an adult I always buy drinks when we are out, treat her to meals or tickets, host family get togethers and provide the food etc. Despite this I seem to have been typecast as "tight" in her mind. Anyone else's mum similar?

My dad thinks I'm a fussy eater. I probably was until my early 20s. I'm nearly 40 now and eat most things. I just find it a bit sad he doesn't really know me anymore.

Yes I always feel very different when I come to stay with my parents, that dynamic just comes flooding back and as much as I hate myself for it I do regress back into a bit of a moody teen because my parents treat me as one 😄 just so interfering etc. I don’t tell them much anymore because of it. So yes I guess that comes down to not seeing that you’ve matured and changed as a person.

Mine regularly bring up things that I have done in the distant past, even things like wearing jeans. There's no moving past it.

In my 50's I was still being reminded of the state of my teenage bedroom.

My DF seems to forget that I am an adult with a very hectic life of my own and don't purely exist to be his company and entertainment. Had the cheek to tell me I wasn't 'busy all the time' neglecting the fact I have five children and work full-time. No dad, not busy at all.

Oh god me too. My parents are both gone now, but they were always astounded that my house was reasonably tidy because of the state of my room when I was 14. 😂

Not sure you can ever move past some parents set views. I had problems in my teens, and my Dad saw fit to bring this up in his speech at my wedding over 25 years later!

My mum was convinced that I was scatty and disorganised. I may have been as a child (when I had undiagnosed ADHD), but as an adult raising five children as a single parent, my 'scattiness' was limited to not knowing what we'd have for dinner until I'd looked in the freezer, and not knowing where my 'handbag' was at all times! (I have never had a handbag, all my cards live in my phone case and my phone is always in my pocket).

I did point out to her that if I were that scatty and disorganised my children wouldn't be at school on time every day in clean uniform. But it was like she looked right past all the organising I DID do (and, with five kids, there was a lot) and only saw that I had no idea what we'd have for dinner!