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MIL added sugar to baby’s food

126 replies

sunflowers365 · 27/12/2023 10:34

I’m cross because my MIL added sugar to porridge she made for my daughter (15 months). Makes me fed up as I have been keeping her off sugar all this time. There’s no need for her to add sugar when she enjoys her porridge as it is and obviously sugar is terrible for babies and kids😡.

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ghlily · 27/12/2023 10:35

Not really the end of the world is it?

vodkaredbullgirl · 27/12/2023 10:36

Are we talking a lot of sugar or a bit of sugar?

Aydel · 27/12/2023 10:36

Is your idea of a delicious snack for your baby a rice cake?

I don’t think a teaspoon of sugar is going to kill her. All things in moderation.

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LittleBearPad · 27/12/2023 10:37

Its really fine isn’t it.

DoorPath · 27/12/2023 10:38

Oh my God, you sound like a pain in the arse.

TheSuggestedAmendment · 27/12/2023 10:39

I was going to agree with you if it had been adding sugar to a packet of baby food.

But some sugar to porridge..? Er no YABU.

calm down MIL hater

Helenahandkart · 27/12/2023 10:40

Of course it’s not fine. You don’t say that you asked her not to, and she disregarded your wishes, but even assuming that she hadn’t been asked not to, it’s still a ridiculous thing to do.
There’s no need at all to be adding sugar to food. It’s not as if the world isn’t already filled with sugary food aimed at kids.

Whereland · 27/12/2023 10:40

I would be annoyed but would get over it pretty quickly. Not the end of the world and it's not a daily occurrence

Setyoufree · 27/12/2023 10:42

No need to do it but one bowl isn't going to do any harm anyway, not worth the drama with the inlaws!

SmileyClare · 27/12/2023 10:42

I have been keeping her off sugar all this time

You still can, although obviously sugar occurs naturally in many foods. She’s not going to suddenly develop an addiction after this one off non event.

Move on- no harm done.

SummerHouse · 27/12/2023 10:43

No need and quite irritating.

Ostryga · 27/12/2023 10:44

Honestly this is not the hill to die on. A bit of sugar in porridge isn’t going to cause lifelong obesity.

Dd and I have brown sugar and cream on our porridge every morning and the world hasn’t ended. Just let it go!

Familiaritybreedscontemptso · 27/12/2023 10:44

Yep it’s frustrating but as a one off you need to let it go.

I’m still frustrated my dh introduced my dc to the concept of sugar on cereal because they were happy without it but for him the concept was so alien he couldn’t imagine cereal without sugar. So I do understand. But making it into a massive thing will not help anyone in the long run. Sometimes you have to suck these things up.

Torganer · 27/12/2023 10:45

It’s annoying, but she may have done it without thinking. My husband put honey in our toddler’s porridge without think as that’s how he makes it (I do water and salt and have accidentally given them salted porridge!).

what part of the sugar are you concerned about? Making food taste too sweet or the actual sugar content? Fruit has a high sugar content, so maybe just skip the banana that day.

MummyJ36 · 27/12/2023 10:47

My 15 month old had a chocolate advent calendar this year 😬 (he’s a second child so it’s a bit of a free for all! His older sister offered to “help” him eat some of it!)
I understand your frustration OP, it’s annoying when you’ve given a clear boundary and it’s ignored. But please don’t worry heavily about sugar. Remember you are still in control, a bit of sugar will not have harmed DC on this occasion and you can pull it back to a no sugar diet really easily. Would your partner / DH be willing to speak to MIL about crossing boundaries like this?

margotrose · 27/12/2023 10:48

What's wrong with sugar on porridge? Confused

wideawakeinthemiddleofthenightagain · 27/12/2023 10:49

Well I don't think your 15mo is going to start raiding the bag of caster sugar with a teaspoon, is she? Fine, she's had a taste of sugar on her porridge. She might be less enthusiastic about eating it tomorrow but, over the next few days, as she doesn't get it again, she'll get used to it.

SmileyClare · 27/12/2023 10:49

The bigger picture is that mil was well intentioned- went to the effort of making porridge for your toddler presumably to help you and because she cares.

Be tactful and kind if you want porridge made to your specifications next time.

Being angry, upset and moaning on social media is all unnecessary drama.

LightDrizzle · 27/12/2023 10:50

My reaction would depend on whether she knew this was something you didn’t want. Otherwise it’s just an innocent mistake.

Lots of people wouldn’t equate no sweets and sugary snacks with no sweetener in porridge.

Tourmalines · 27/12/2023 10:54

Well instead of ranting on here how cross you are , how about you ask your MIL to not put it on anymore . Of course, in a nice courteous way. If you can .

Remmy123 · 27/12/2023 10:55

You are being ridiculous

Cakeandcardio · 27/12/2023 10:58

It would annoy me a lot, OP. Probably not too terrible as you just don't give your daughter any more. I think the issue is that people need to check with you what your dd is allowed so maybe have a conversation about that.

SparkyBlue · 27/12/2023 10:58

My mum would have always done the same but growing up in the fifties that's what people were told to do as children had otherwise very little sugar in their diets. Not something to I'd do but my mum would have rarely been feeding my children so I wouldn't get worked up over it. However I did get annoyed when she gave my six month a twix to suck on lol

WhateverMate · 27/12/2023 11:00

Oh well, just ask her not to do it again 🤷‍♂️

ZekeZeke · 27/12/2023 11:01

Assume your MIL was looking after your DD?
Not the hill to die on and a total non event.
Chill!

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