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Innocent or not?

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Tryandtryagain02 · 26/12/2023 17:55

I was the result of a fling between my parents. My Mum was left with me and I didn't meet my Dad for the first time until I was 11. In total I have met my Dad about 20 times. At the beginning of this year we got back in contact and he explained he's an alcoholic and had been sober for nearly 3 years. He met my eldest daughter once when she was 2 (now 12) and it was an extremely strange weekend. He wanted to get in bed with my daughter and I, he was OVERLY affectionate, never out of my personal space by hugging me, kissing my head none stop. I thought it was because he hadn't seen me in years but I felt extremely uncomfortable.

Anyway, he came over in August and met both girls and my 7 year old thought he was fantastic. He's got a very good business and makes a lot of money so spent the weekend buying everything they wanted which I wasn't comfortable with but he said "please let me, I'm making up for lost time". He then started his overly affectionate behaviour with the girls just like he did 10 years ago. The kissing, hugging, rubbing my 12 years old thigh and mine. Rubbing our hands, trying to hold our hands. My 12 year old nearly burst into tears in a restaurant because she felt so uncomfortable. My daughters 7 year old friend came for dinner and my dad was there and he started it with her. Kissing her on the lips, kissing my daughter. So her mum politely asked him not to do that. But, he still was extremely inappropriate.

I wondered at first was all of this because he hasn't got any experience with children or because he's missed out all these years. Now I'm starting to think is he peadophile or extremely narcissistic that he thinks he's entitled to behave like that and why?

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123456me · 26/12/2023 17:57

WTF did I just read, avoid him never see him again

Catsmere · 26/12/2023 22:25

Holy shit, the alarm bells were going CLANG CLANG CLANG while I read that. Seconding the first poster, never see him again.

pinkstripeycat · 26/12/2023 22:31

Not innocent! Definitely not at all! So inappropriate and weird

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Cherrysoup · 26/12/2023 22:31

Jesus, I would not be seeing h8m again, his behaviour is incredibly dodgy!

Minglingpringle · 26/12/2023 22:33

Listen to your instinct. His behaviour makes you uncomfortable (even if by some stretch of the imagination it is innocent). Make sure he’s never in a position to repeat it.

TinselTitts · 26/12/2023 22:34

I would've booted him the first time he tried that pervy shit with my kids.

I can't believe what I've just read to be honest.

mondaytosunday · 26/12/2023 22:35

You tell him immediately it's not appropriate snd if he touches your girls or you that's it no more visits. It's creepy and you should have called him out the very first time. It's nothing to do with inexperience- anyone would know that's wrong.

Tryandtryagain02 · 27/12/2023 11:26

Thanks for your replies, I agree with them all. Was just looking for some clarification.

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Ohthatsfabulousdarling · 27/12/2023 11:31

This is very obviously not right.

MILTOBE · 27/12/2023 11:39

You know this isn't right. I can understand you wanting your father back in your life but actually the very best thing that happened to you was him walking out of the family home. God knows what you would have gone through.

I would go to the local police station and ask about Clare's Law. It wouldn't surprise me at all if this man had a record for sexual offences against children.

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