Changed username for this one because the situation could be identifying.
For a long time we have gone on holiday to the same place my parents, my sister and her family. 6 adults and now a couple of kids. We all share the same villa.
My sister is not good to be around and I get physical symptoms of anxiety in her company - heart racing, feeling and sometimes even being sick. It’s stupid really and I need to get a handle on it, but there is no one else whom I feel that way around and can be attributed to her nature. She can be manipulative and likes to dominate situations, but has a bizarre behaviour pattern of pretending everyone else is the problem. Impossible to talk or reason with her without her becoming reactive and she is passive aggressive, mainly towards me. At the root of it I believe she is insecure and in childhood we used to get on well.
We are due to go in a few months but I am really nervous about it. For the past few years it’s been awkward and uncomfortable, and judging by the behaviour at Christmas she has no desire to change.
I want to go, it’s paid for now and my parents would be sad to not go even though they understand the dynamic. I just don’t know if I can face up to her remarks and general attitude. She isn’t nice to DH either although he just ignores it whereas it does eat away at me
How would you manage this situation?