Overwhelmed by unwanted baby clothes - help me chill out!

[Bulkypeepants]

This is such a first world problem but I need someone to help me chill out about it! My mum keeps getting on buying my 6 month old clothes that we do not need as we have TONNES of clothes already. I am so overwhelmed by the fact that she is spending money on clothes that I won't even take the tags off - there are things that were 0-3 months that she bought that weren't ever used for example. I have asked her not to do this probably 20+ times and suggested that she put the money into DS bank account or pay for trips out etc if she wants to spend. I have just discovered a load more stuff in her wardrobe and challenged her about it (firmly but not nastily) and she started crying FFS. I'm not falling for it so walked off and left her to it. Sorry, but you've been told MANY times to stop buying stuff and you know it's majorly stressing me out so crocodile tears aren't going to work on me.

I know that the worst that can happen is I just take all the stuff to the charity shop but my brain isn't being rational and can't cope with the money being wasted (+ all the space that these unnecessary clothes are taking up). Tried selling things on FB marketplace but there's so many hand me down groups in my local area that people aren't really interested.

If anyone has any words of wisdom to stop me feeling so overwhelmed, please share!!

If you’ve told her, and she ignores you, then hand them back or take to the charity shop. It’s frustrating, but I’m not sure what else you can do when someone blatantly ignores your request.
Does she have MH problems?

Just stop accepting them when she tries to give them to you. Don't take them. Hand then straight back.

"Mum, it's very kind of you to try and help but as I've explained previously we already have too many clothes and have no room for more. Please return these and save your money for <something nice for her>."

Take them to a women's refuge. They always have a real need and then they are not being bought twice.

People are so pushy aren't they? Reiterate that she could spend the money on days out, things you need etc I wonder?
Have you asked her why she feels it's so important to her that she buys things?
It would drive me round the bend!

Simple solution put the clothes on your baby and don't waste money buying tonnes of clothes.

I'm in SW London and collecting for a West African charity if wish to donate.

I have someone that does this with my daughter (although it's bags and bags of clothes her daughter has outgrown rather than new clothes) and I was beginning to find it incredibly overwhelming.

I accepted that she wanted to feel like she was helping us and that by rejecting them I'd upset her. So now I take them, thank her politely and then put everything straight in a box in the garage. About once a year I donate the box to mothers2mothers. She's still helping someone and I'm not overwhelmed with hundreds of clothes and insufficient storage.

I feel you massively.
I have gone for a halfway house with DM and MIL

IThere was no one solution so I went multipronged!!!

i did / do a combination of:

-refusing to accept some things(too small / too impractical and too uglys) these literally are put back in the car when she is leaving.

• when browsing the internet in my house I get her to check with me before buying so I can say No no no no noooooo
• making her return for next size up and let her feel the inconvenience
• I return for store credit or several sizes up myself if it suits
• I sell some on vinted and keep the cash
• some goes straight to charity shop

• I indulge it sometimes because I love her, it brings joy and it really is a bit grinchy to always say no.
• I only really buy the unglamorous stuff like vests, socks, etc in sales or ahead of time.
• I have given up buying ANY Easter, Christmas or Halloween outfits but have been clear to DM and MIL I own birthday outfits.

We have reduced /contained the issue at this stage and I reliably know I will get a LOT of outfits (at least 12-15 per annum from her and MIL) and the same again from MIL and some from other relatives.

This Christmas we got at least 10 outfits and accessories (bows, bags, hats gloves). All are next size up and I "forecasted" / knew it was coming so no big deal.

If they have tags on, you can take back to the shop and usually exchange for a larger size without the receipt.

I sold all my unused baby clothes on Vinted and used the money to buy clothes me / baby needed

My mum is like this too - what has worked best (not completely but it has really helped) is diverting her onto things I do want or at least not mind having.

So she buys all the children's books she wants because the kids love books and it's not difficult to get rid of any excess, I also get her to buy fancy dress costumes. It might be something else for you but basically I have accepted that buying things is how she wants to show affection but tried to steer it

Anything with tags take back to the shops, most of the chains will at least give you a gift vouchers in exchange.