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Anyone else only woman in an all-male household

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N0tfinished · 25/12/2023 18:16

And really miss other women at Christmas?

My DH and my boys are sweethearts but I miss Christmas with my Mum & Sister. I loved the chats and laughs while making the dinner, sharing all the preparations and sharing the work TBH. They're celebrating in my home city & I'm farther away. We need to stay home due to DS2's autism.

MIL & BIL come out to us but they're not any help. BIL would help & it's always great to see him, as he's so good natured and so good with DS2. MIL just follows me around sighing. The most enthusiasm she showed today was when she heard local woman we know had fallen off the wagon. Theres also some very subtle racism and homophobia on a low simmer.

I just miss my mum & sister so much, feeling sorry for myself.

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Bumblebeehum · 25/12/2023 18:19

Yep I hear you, we don't visit anyone or have anyone over due to DS autism but Christmas Day when I was young centred around my mums sisters (she was one of 4) and all our cousins. I miss lots of company.

HirplesWithHaggis · 25/12/2023 18:19

Yup, dh, two adult sons, even my cats are toms. But the humans have been quite helpful so I don't mind. Sorry you miss your family.

pinkdelight · 25/12/2023 18:24

I'm the only woman but my DH does all the cooking and tasks more traditionally associated with women while I'm more useless in that department and am happy to not have female company over Christmas as I get plenty of it the rest of the year with friends so enjoy the quiet time to do my own thing. One of my DS is autistic so I know where you're coming from but he's happy to game etc and likes there being no social pressures. Can you at least enjoy some time to yourself away from hosting and treat yourself to a bath or a book or something? I hope so.

pickledandpuzzled · 25/12/2023 18:27

My men are great- excellent kitchen slaves and good at distracting my mother whose purpose in life seems to be standing between me and whatever I’m trying to cook and asking me why her smartphone doesn’t work the way she thinks it should.

In fact, there are no female family members that are anything but trouble 😂

FizzyStream · 25/12/2023 18:28

Me. I'm here with DH, FIL and two DSs. The cat is female but she's buggered off to hide under a bed and I think I'll join her!

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 25/12/2023 18:29

Yes, I hear you OP!! Even the cat is male 🙄 Fortunately ds has a lovely GF who is looking like she is probably going to be my daughter in law soon so things get a bit more balanced out when she's here!

Wasdobs · 26/12/2023 08:45

Yes it was me and partner four sons teens to young adults and partners grown up son and grandson plus the male dog! They were all such fun though and had such a laugh and my partner is a great help in the kitchen / clearing away etc it was a fab day :)

EmmaGrundyForPM · 26/12/2023 08:47

DH and 2 adult DS here. We all have a laugh, don't miss female company at all.

EmmaGrundyForPM · 26/12/2023 08:49

Sorry, just realised you meant over Christmas, not generally. We've had my Mum and her partner and my niece and her boyfriend over Christmas but everyone mucked in and we all had a lovely time.

EnglishRose1320 · 26/12/2023 08:50

Totally understand how you feel, Christmas day was me, dp, two ds' & fil. Eldest ds is autistic & needed to spend about half the day in his room.
I called my mum but its not the same. I'm not sure if it's female company I miss, or just not seeing my side of the family.
I'm trying to decide if ds1 could cope with all his grandparents staying next year. He's use to fil in law staying, but my parents never have.
Although outside of Christmas he seems them more & they understand his needs more, so it could work, but the house would be busier, so it might not....

MyLibrarywasdukedomlargeenough · 26/12/2023 09:07

I know what you mean. It’s been DH, DS and I at home for years, then DS got old enough to date and brought his GF home I didn’t realise what I had been missing till she was around. I have women friend's but this is different because it’s just normal family stuff at home. I also stayed at a friends for 2 weeks in the summer and I just loved it. I love those lads it’s not even a men do this and women do that scenario. I am one of 5 sisters, all scattered to the four winds and I think deep down that is the reason, it reminds me of those times.

OwlWeiwei · 26/12/2023 10:21

I miss other women all the time. All male household and all DH's family, who we are closer to than my own family, are male too. I am usually the only woman at table. But my DSis is coming today for Boxing Day lunch and I can't bloody wait!

Superstar22 · 26/12/2023 10:23

Yes! Even the cats are boys. Make it a NY resolution to prioritise your females more; get dates in, plan things months in advance & don’t forget that a phone call is better than nothing.

GrandParade · 26/12/2023 10:30

Yes, my immediate family is DS (11) and DH, but it’s never occurred to me to miss women at Christmas — DH does all the cooking, and we had my sisters, mother and aunt as guests yesterday.

Strawberrycheesecake7 · 26/12/2023 10:38

Yes I live with my DH and DS. 4 of our 5 animals are male as well (hamster is female but I’m not sure if she counts) so I am very outnumbered. I do sometimes miss living at home and having my mum and sister to talk to. I have a great relationship with DH but there are just some things a man doesn’t get. My DH did the cooking at Christmas though so I can’t say I relate to not having any help.

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N0tfinished · 28/12/2023 18:37

MyLibrarywasdukedomlargeenough · 26/12/2023 09:07

I know what you mean. It’s been DH, DS and I at home for years, then DS got old enough to date and brought his GF home I didn’t realise what I had been missing till she was around. I have women friend's but this is different because it’s just normal family stuff at home. I also stayed at a friends for 2 weeks in the summer and I just loved it. I love those lads it’s not even a men do this and women do that scenario. I am one of 5 sisters, all scattered to the four winds and I think deep down that is the reason, it reminds me of those times.

That's exactly it, it's more of a sentimental thing maybe?

Thanks for all the lovely replies xx

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Deathraystare · 29/12/2023 09:32

@Strawberrycheesecake7
(hamster is female but I’m not sure if she counts)

Of course she does! (well...sort of..)

Ozgirl75 · 29/12/2023 09:42

I’m normally the only woman (husband and two sons) but I had my parents and DH parents over Xmas. However, my dad is the main kitchen helper (gets bored sitting around) and my 13 year old son is my main kitchen chatter as he loves a gossip and chit chat any time.

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