I’m so sad

[Robinkitty]

I need to pull myself together. It’s so hard. I’m so lonely this isn’t what I thought my life would be.

I'm really sorry to hear that you're having a tough time. Are you by yourself today? Or is it the other loneliness, when you're with someone but don't feel connected?

I'm so sorry to hear you feel this way. I'm also very lonely, having moved to a new area, and I hardly know anyone here! I'm working out a strategy to move back to where I used to live...

I’m really sorry you’re feeling like this, Christmas can bring up a lot. Can you put it to bed and enjoy the next day or two, and then figure out what you want to change in the NY?

Thank you both for replying. I’m by myself my kids have gone early to their dads and his new family and my ex in-laws all together. My life is a mess and for the most part my own making. I’ve put some music on now and will carry on functioning although I just want to take to my bed.

Sorry you’re having hard day Robin. Make a cup of tea and keep talking here x

Thank you, I’ve come back from the edge now I think I’m going to have a cup of tea, do some yoga and wait for this to be over

💐💐💐xx

Don't know where you're based, but if you're anywhere near Wimbledon, you could always go to The Alexandra pub

They do a free lunch for anyone who is on their own/lonely.

I’m sorry, Christmas is hard for so many of us 💐

It's not easy at this time of the year. Giving you a big hug and I hope your day gets better 🤗

I’m sorry to hear you feel like this.

why do you think you deserve to feel so lonely??

I went to a knitting club last night with my daughter as we were on our own - and it was twinkling fairy lights and sat and knitted lovely

I struggle with friends I strongly suspect given both kids are autistic that I also am
are you having therapy?

is it Sarah millican that does a thing for Christmas singletons? Not sure

can you join anyone for Christmas lunch or accept an invite

how are you connected on your community? Do you go to a church or reading group? Or reach out many many many people feel lonely at Christmas…..

Are the kids back later lovely or tomorrow?

I’m reading your replies and it helps a lot, thank you to all.
Im doing really well after a horrendous couple of years but only when I’m busy then when I’m alone and especially on a day like this it hits like a ton of bricks.
isn’t feeling lonely such a horrible thing!

I just wanted to say merry Christmas @Robinkitty. You're not the only one on their own today, I am too. But MN is such a comfort and, if you get really low, you can always read posts from people who are ready to murder their DPs with a potato peeler!

It's just one day, it will soon be over.

Just remember, you're stronger than you think.

Awww, thinking of you and wishing you all the best today and for the future.

Hi @Robinkitty
Sorry you're feeling so bad.
Im feeling the same after a very bad couple of years.
Just trying to get through the end of this year.

Big hugs. Try to enjoy some 'me' time. Eat what you want, go for a walk, read a book, have a bubble bath, watch some movies and just enjoy the day for yourself 🫶

Good plan... It will soon be over.

Watching something good will pass the time quicker.

Sorry to hear this, Op. I know loneliness is hard and shouldn’t compare, but I think many would choose your cup of tea, yoga, and peace of mind over some of the horrible relationship situations we can read about on here over Christmas. Get cosy as possible and watch / read something good.

Go for a walk somewhere even if it’s raining - getting outside makes a big difference. Then get home, hot shower and pjs plus crap telly for the rest of the day.

I'm without my kids too.

I think of this as just another day. Christmas is the days I get to spend time with them.

We'll get through this and there will be better days ahead.

👋 @Robinkitty
I'm on my todd today too.
There will be a fair few of us today, dipping in & out.
I agree with doing something nice for yourself 🌺
An old friend once told me 'This too shall pass' and was right. I miss her and her wisdom ❤️

hi Robin, sorry that things haven’t been too great. I have had rough 6 months too and have been putting on a brave face for my youngest DD who is home from university. Hope you have a relaxing day and sending you lots of hugs and Christmas wishes xxx

I'd highly recommend "Nativity" on TV. I felt like you earlier on in the week, that brightened my mood. I watched the second half twice!
I'm sat by myself and have just demolished pigs in blankets. No other dinner, just piggies. I'm going to watch a film and then dive into party tea later.
Think of today as a Saturday.
Big hugs.

@Robinkitty - I'm sorry you're feelin' sad - I can understand though - may I invite you to try the Christmas Puzzle on the main thread.
I hope you enjoy it - I enjoyed making it!
With my very best wishes - Dan

I agree with a previous poster - go for a walk. I'm on my own today as well. I went for a walk this morning and it really helped me.

It's just one day in the year OP and you can have a pamper evening and an early night.