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Are you rich? What makes you rich in your opinion

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Tiddingtonplace · 23/12/2023 21:54

Its so subjective, isnt it?

OP posts:
WeekWeekWeek · 23/12/2023 21:58

Are you rich?
Yes

What makes you rich?
I have a lot of money.

Hope this helps.

Original poster
Tiddingtonplace · 23/12/2023 22:00

@WeekWeekWeek no it doesnt! You must be new money.

OP posts:
WhimsicalMoth · 23/12/2023 22:01

Are you rich?
No

What makes you rich?
Nothing of any financial nature

WeekWeekWeek · 23/12/2023 22:06

Tiddingtonplace · 23/12/2023 22:00

@WeekWeekWeek no it doesnt! You must be new money.

And you must not understand the word “subjective”.

BerriesNutsConkers · 23/12/2023 22:12

Yes,
I have a safe, warm home, lovely friends, supportive family and all my needs are met.
I can pay my bills and feed my children.

I may lead a modest life but I am rich beyond measure compared to so many in this word.

Original poster
Tiddingtonplace · 23/12/2023 22:13

@BerriesNutsConkers very rich indeed, I feel the same.

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HorribleHisTories15 · 23/12/2023 22:18

It doesn't bode well when the OP asks a question, and then proceeds to tell participants that they are wrong. Even if @WeekWeekWeek is new money, it doesn't matter. That was not the question. Equally @WeekWeekWeek has every right to consider him/herself as rich, it is a subjective answer.

aSwarmOfMidgies · 23/12/2023 22:22

Well to be fair the answe lots of money wasn't much of an answer as it begs the question what is a lot of money and it just came across as snarky .. like urgh op you're so dumb the answer is money

Ewoklady · 23/12/2023 22:23

I don’t have many savings but I earn well and we rent out two houses and live Nicely

Meredusoleil · 23/12/2023 22:30

BerriesNutsConkers · 23/12/2023 22:12

Yes,
I have a safe, warm home, lovely friends, supportive family and all my needs are met.
I can pay my bills and feed my children.

I may lead a modest life but I am rich beyond measure compared to so many in this word.

Pretty much this. We have enough. We don't need to be wealthy.

ThisHouseWillBeTheDeathOfMe · 23/12/2023 22:33

In many senses.

I work at a charity part time, and issue crisis packs mainly of food. Things like this are so humbling and make me feel grateful for so much I have and oft take for granted.

Money wise, particularly rich now? No. DH on 6 figures but we have too many DC, twins in nursery, and our monthly outgoings are astronomical. I sell several hundred pounds of our old stuff on eBay each month, and we very much need that money to not feel like we're spending everything we earn.

I do have a trust though. As do my DC. And our combined inheritance will be several million. I wish my parents would pass at least some of this on now though. By the time we receive it, I hope we're a right old age, because that means my parents have had a long and full life, but we'll also be pushing pension age ourselves. It does frustrate me that we scrimp on things, and don't really holiday when there's this huge balance, just gathering dust. I won't do this to our DC. I want to see them and their DC enjoy their lives with the opportunity and comfort money can provide. Not have this huge amount, arriving bittersweet as they've just lost their parents.

The thing I feel richest about though, is DTwins. Boy/Girl. I feel so privileged and lucky to have them. They don't run in the family and were a total surprise. The French call B/G twins "un cadeau de dieu" a gift from God, and I couldn't agree more.

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Tiddingtonplace · 23/12/2023 22:35

@aSwarmOfMidgies thank you.

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Falalalalaa · 23/12/2023 22:36

My children are safe, loved, warm, fed and healthy.

I am definitely rich.

time4aNC · 23/12/2023 22:37

It’s so subjective. A few years ago I would’ve thought I am rich. I’m mid twenties, engaged and getting married next year, own my own home and car, professional job earning 40k, a few k in savings (going on the wedding). I kinda just feel ‘meh’ but I understand others would perceive me (including myself a few years ago) as quite well off.

determinedtomakethiswork · 23/12/2023 22:39

I can never understand the snobbery about new money. It just means that someone in your immediate family has worked hard to start up a business and has made it work. Old money just means you've inherited everything and haven't added to the pot yourselves. I can't see why anyone nowadays would think that was great, except of course, those who have old money, that tiny tiny minority, who have to have something to lord over other people.

I noticed it when I was watching partygate. Some of those people were so snobbish about what their ancestors had done and I felt like saying well what the fuck have you done yourself?

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Tiddingtonplace · 23/12/2023 22:39

@ThisHouseWillBeTheDeathOfMe thats really interesting re the trust funds...

My friend owns 2 houses but doesnt consider herself to be rich-her words not mine at a tipsy dinner! So I just wondered what other people's thoughts were...

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LittleFishyEyes · 23/12/2023 22:40

Well at the moment despite having an illness that will never leave me. Own my house outright. Happily Married 20+ years. Can afford to feed my kids. Love my friends. Work but also have time to volunteer to support something I really care about.

I'd say I was rich.

Can't afford to travel, waste food or buy expensive stuff for myself but don't want to do any of these.

solsticelove · 23/12/2023 22:41

We are rich money-wise (relatively speaking, we’re not in Bill Gates category!).
But health-wise we are on the very poor side.
And I’d swap over in a heartbeat.

DiwaliQueen · 23/12/2023 22:43

A lot of people are saying they are rich because they have a roof over their heads and food for their kids...I get it. But would you really consider yourself rich/wealthy? I think this time of the month is making people feel all fuzzy and Cary Grant like!

StSwithinsDay · 23/12/2023 22:45

We are wealthy. And appreciate it.

DanceMumTaxi · 23/12/2023 22:46

Reasonably comfortable compared to some, but definitely not rich at all. We have what we need, but definitely not a lavish lifestyle with numerous holidays, private school, fancy cars etc. We can usually save a bit each month so have money for emergencies but we don’t have tens of thousands in the bank. I think ‘rich’ in monetary terms means earning hundreds of thousands a year.

ThisHouseWillBeTheDeathOfMe · 23/12/2023 22:48

Tiddingtonplace · 23/12/2023 22:39

@ThisHouseWillBeTheDeathOfMe thats really interesting re the trust funds...

My friend owns 2 houses but doesnt consider herself to be rich-her words not mine at a tipsy dinner! So I just wondered what other people's thoughts were...

Depends if they're owned outright I guess.

And where they are.

We live in the south east. Little two beds are £250k. DH has a Northern office and one of the girls there bought her house for £38k. Blows my mind.

My aunt is super flash but everything is on credit and she's all money money money, name dropping "wealthy" friends she follows about and fawns over to the point it's vulgar. She will tell anyone who will listen about her rental portfolio. Which is two £150k flats. But what she won't allude to in her bragging, is that she couldn't afford either in the first place and it's all for her image and ego. And because she can't afford them, she got interest only mortgages. On both. And now the interest has gone berserk. And she's in negative equity.

threeisquiteenough · 23/12/2023 22:51

I remember getting my first graduate job and feeling like the richest person in the world, because for the first time I was truely independent and capable of paying my own way. It was massively empowering and exciting.

Then when marriage and few kids came, we earnt more, but had a lot more outgoings. In terms of finance, we always felt stretched, but in terms of life we felt very privileged.

We are now much more settled in careers and family life. I have seen so many people struggle with the COL crisis, and whilst I can see the difference in our outgoings, we have been incredibly lucky to weather the storm without any direct impact. However, we are getting into stage of life where parents are older, health isn't greatest for them, and it worries me what time we have with them. Money doesn't seem to matter so much.

My point is- money isn't the be all and end all (assuming you have enough to get by). There are so many other aspects of life that can leave you feeling lucky/rich.

Crishell · 23/12/2023 22:52

To me, rich means having enough money to pretty much do what you want and not run out.

Are we rich? Well we have alot of money, yes, but if we were to live a very lavish lifestyle, then the money would eventually run out.

sgtmajormum · 23/12/2023 23:01

I don't have bucket loads of cash, but my family have a safe, secure home. I can afford to keep it warm and we have plenty of food. We are all healthy.
No debts aside from the mortgage. That to me is rich indeed.