Anyone separate in 40’s and not have energy to find new partner or to date again?

[FirePlaceLion]

And therefore live life alone?

I was married for a long time and have had brief relationship after my breakup.

i don’t feel like I’ll be able to date again.

I have young children but it does concern me about living the rest of life alone.

any experiences?

I got divorced at 40 - long overdue.

I’m now 50 & the absolute last thing I would even consider doing is dating again. I’ve got a happy, busy life with friends, family, cats & my own beloved flat all to myself, & I’m staying that way!

Why would you think you’ll be alone forever? You could meet anyone at any time.

I am single as I am not prepared to disrupt my DD’s childhood. Our house is happy & stable and I wouldn’t bring an unrelated male into her life. I can’t see any potential boyfriends accepting seeing me x 1 per week when my DD goes to her dad’s for the day.

I don’t think I will be single forever though (although I won’t settle for just anyone). As long as we’re here, we have a chance to meet anyone. If I don’t meet anyone, that’s fine, I will be happy anyway but no-one knows what will happen.

I was divorced in 2008 when I was 45 and am still single mainly through choice... I prioritised my kids happiness and stability although I have had the odd boyfriend over the years. I just didn't try hard to meet someone then when I did, I preferred being single! Now I think I've been single too long to compromise.

Trouble is we know too much! They all seem nice at first but the niceness never lasts. I am very cynical aren't I?! But honestly I don't go out for dinner twice a week now and don't have the energy to do the whole dress up, hair, makeup, wax etc etc and then be on best behaviour for months just to find someone to ultimately integrate into my life of watching telly on the sofa in the evening in pjs. I'm too old to adopt a new life that involves anything else more exciting after a days work. Frankly a once a week lover who spends the rest of the week at his own place would be ideal!