Haven't got DC grandad a present

[Illbefinejustbloodyfine]

Hes the dad of ex husband. SO difficult to buy for. Always has been. No hobbies to talk of. Gardens, because it needs doing. Feeds the birds. Buy him new gardening gloves, he'll keep them wrapped and not use them.

We've exhausted those things. The reason I buy for them is for my DC to give, rather than for them to receive iyswim. So we have 1 small present for their dad, 2 for their GM. Nothing for GD. Is it ok to send them with nothing?

We have a difficult relationship which doesn't help.

Apologies as I don't know the etiquette for divorced parents, wouldn't their father buy for his parents from his children?

Can't you just send chocolates or biscuits? Or a framed photo of your dcs?

Let your kids choose a big bar of chocolate from your local shop, or a bottle of beer or similar.

It is your exes job to buy presents for his parents from his children.

Why would you buy him a present?

@Hadalifeonce you'd think, but no.

Chocs/biscuits would be a good idea but he has sone medical issue which means he can't eat much of them. I don't y know what though.

Nice plant?
Socks? Hankies (if he'd use them)
Cross word and special pen?
Boiled sweets to suck when he can?
Wash set?

Shouldn't your children be choosing the gift?

Just buy him a bar of chocolate and don't worry about it any more. I wouldn't send the kids with nothing though if you have something for everyone else

Honestly, all the usual stuff has been dobe to death. Yes their dad should be doing this, but he wont/doesn't.

I will get some chocolates or similar. They haven't actually specified his medical issue and its really just a token so the DC have something to give. They love giving presents.

Thanks everyone, I'm def overthinking this. It's such a difficult relationship. EVERYthing is "read into". Usually incorrectly.

• Latest jack reacher or Stephen King book or whatever biography is in the bestsellers list
• chocolate/biscuits/crackers box
• £20 Amazon voucher

Basically something you can pick up in a supermarket and wrap.

New bird feeder and some seed?

I came here to suggest this.

Although in the circs I'd leave it to your ex. If he doesn't it's a him problem, not yours.

Give the kids £10 and send them in to Tesco to pick something.

Agree - total token gift. Socks or biscuits.

Agree that the XH should be doing this, but OP is thinking of her kids who would not like to turn up without a gift, rather than her ex FIL.

That's exactly it @SheilaFentiman .

We've been to tesco, all sorted. We've all been ill with various things for weeks so its all been a bit last minute.

Glad you found something to suit, @Illbefinejustbloodyfine