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I am so angry all the time

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MillyStar9 · 22/12/2023 19:51

Can anyone offer any insight into why I feel so angry all the time? I am divorced and have a 4 year old. I work part time. I have free time and hobbies. I put a lot of pressure on myself to look a certain way and I am very busy and find it almost impossible to relax. When I am around my mother especially I am so angry at her and my DD has commented on this today. As soon as I am in my mothers presence I feel such anger and hostility towards her. Today she has taken us out for a lovely day and the whole time I am rolling my eyes and snapping and raging internally. How on earth can I stop this?

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meringue33 · 22/12/2023 22:06

Sorry you’re going through this. Google “affordable therapy” and you might find a pay as you feel place near you. In the meantime some journaling might help. It can also be helpful to write down the negative thoughts you have then reflect on whether they are truly yours. For example if you’re thinking “I look a fright” or “my job is pathetic”, are these your real beliefs or stuff you’ve picked up from parents or negative people around you? Try then letting go of them and writing the true stuff instead, eg “I am an attractive woman with a kind face”, “my job is meaningful and creates a safe home for me and DD.” Good luck, you are taking the first step by sharing your feelings.

Shudacudawuda · 22/12/2023 22:10

Please also consider getting your thyroid function checked.
Hunger and anger were my two main symptoms before my heart rate went crazy and I discovered my thyroid was overactive. I was raging with anger for about two years before that.
It doesn't mean your issues with your mother don't also need resolving but sometimes the level if anger can also be related to a physical issue.

Mairzydotes · 22/12/2023 22:20

Sometimes anger is the way unhappiness manifests itself . Could you be unhappy?

ScabbyHorse · 22/12/2023 22:35

I feel the same way, I really understand what you have said

Gotosleepnow2023 · 22/12/2023 22:39

100% try Therapy. It won't fix your problems but it will make you feel soooo much better, like a weight has been lifted and you can cope with everything being less tense and angry. Speaking from experience x

auburnglow788 · 22/12/2023 22:44

Might be worth reading about 'parentified children' to see if there are similarities and whether it has manifested in anger towards your mother.

PictureFrameWindow · 22/12/2023 22:56

@ChanelNo19EDT you have explained that so well. Same for me exactly.

Boomboom22 · 22/12/2023 23:00

6 years ago was before you were a mother yourself. Now you are you have realised how selfish your parents behaviour was and are less protective of them and more of you as a child.

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MillyStar9 · 23/12/2023 06:36

This has resonated with me. Especially me being unhappy and all this really getting worse when I became a mother. I still live in my hometown and I am suffocated here. My siblings got out and I could as well. I feel it could be the best thing for me. I can’t grow up here.

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goMe46 · 23/12/2023 13:14

Millystar9

I could've written most of your post!

I have been through similar feelings.

Having children made a difference to mine & my mums relationship
It's a eye opener x

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