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Is it normal to think of an ex at Christmas?

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Tobenot4 · 20/12/2023 06:57

We broke up in 2021 after 5 years together, but I find myself thinking of him more in the last few days. I'd never go back there after how badly he treated me at the end, so it's not that. Anyone else find themselves thinking of a significant ex around this time?

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Hopingforno2in2024 · 20/12/2023 06:59

Yes I think of my ex at Christmas. I think a lot of the songs encourage you to think of past loves. It is a reflective time of year in general.

velvetoptions · 20/12/2023 07:06

presuming you’re not in a happy relationship?

Hopingforno2in2024 · 20/12/2023 07:15

I’m very happily married @velvetoptions but certain songs at Christmas definitely make me think of my first love.

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Tobenot4 · 20/12/2023 07:19

velvetoptions · 20/12/2023 07:06

presuming you’re not in a happy relationship?

I've been single since we broke up in 2021. I've no interest in getting into another relationship. I'm happily single now.

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Mindymomo · 20/12/2023 07:23

Of course it’s normal to think back and miss the special times, it’s like when you remember holidays the sun always shone, when in fact you probably had rain. I think it’s better to remember good times, it doesn’t help remembering the bad times, although you’ve got them stored away in your brain somewhere. We all miss what could’ve been.

Theunamedcat · 20/12/2023 07:26

Normal, it's the music I think 🤔 I love to sing and dance at Christmas my ex was the same we had some great moments (loads of not so great and some fucking horrendous moments) I've been single for years I get lonely and tend to romanticise things it passes

GrandColombier · 20/12/2023 07:31

Yes. After a messy break up in the summer and seeing him now coupled up with the women he cheated on me with is making me think of him a lot.

The songs, memories and reflection at this season bring it all to the front.

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Tobenot4 · 20/12/2023 09:02

Yes, I agree it's the music probably has me feeling nostalgic.

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velvetoptions · 20/12/2023 09:22

Tobenot4 · 20/12/2023 09:02

Yes, I agree it's the music probably has me feeling nostalgic.

focus on what sounds like a pretty awful end due to him treating you so badly…. that sound wipe out the fond nostalgia!

Starryskies1 · 20/12/2023 11:30

I think it’s normal as Christmas seems to be aimed at family time and nostalgia.

Singleandproud · 20/12/2023 11:33

I think it's normal to think of ex's and anyone that has been a prominent part of your life at this time of year, looking backwards now and forwards to the future for the new year

AmazingDayz · 20/12/2023 11:34

Yes my ex texts me “merry Xmas” every single year despite the fact we have been broken up for almost 7 years and have no contact and aren’t friends and don’t speak still get the text every xmas without fail (I don’t think of him and never text him)

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Tobenot4 · 25/12/2023 19:22

I had a little cry yesterday, was feeling quite down, thinking back over things. Have spent today with family so feeling better.

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