Help me find the right help? I

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I have a great life and lovely family, but I struggle nevertheless. I just wrote and lost a longer post and can't bring myself to write it all out again, but to summarise over the last 4-5 years I've found all sorts of things increasingly difficult, anxiety is probably playing a part. I can think and find logical answers to individual issues but can't really get to the bottom of wtf the real problem is and I've got to the point where I'm really pissing myself off.

Will a counsellor/therapist be able to help me unpick this? How do I go about finding a decent one? I see people asking for recommendations on FB groups, but most of the replies are either for self-taught 'life coaches' or just tagged names with no context. How do I filter out the quacks or find something appropriate?

Thanks x

Therapy. You're not feeling your feelings and are disassociating for some reason. How to find a good one I can't help with but your GP can signpost you to local services.

Is it the "pissing myself off" that makes you say that? Maybe. I do feel things, plenty, acutely. It does feel like I've got my logical/practical thoughts fighting with my self-sabotaging/negative thoughts sometimes though. It would be nice to bypass the GP at least initially, but obviously I would go through them if I needed to. Thank you 😊

It's the fact you talk about it all objectively and without emotion and seeking logical reasoning, it's disassociation. Have a look at the feelings/emotions wheel and start putting labels on things through the day and see if that helps.

Where I live GPs can refer us to counselling but we can also it directly with the counselling team. I would google your town name + counselling service, and see what it gives you.

Thanks 😊 If I'd have written a train of thought post earlier this morning it would have been a lot of emotional waffle. But I'm trying to get my practical head to stay on long enough to actually try and help myself.
I'll have a Google x

If you are a genuine therapist you should bloody well know better than to approach people on forums like this.

I've spoken to a very helpful friend who has helped me research therapists with a view to contacting a couple when I'm feeling brave this week. I wouldn't respond to a misguided random internet approach don't worry pp, even if it happened to be well intentioned. Happy New Year everyone 😊