do you still feel salty about things that happened years ago?

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I used to work in a call centre, back in the nineties, where the managers were in a relationship and were extremely unpleasant, gossiping constantly about colleagues.
On my very first day,
in training, in front of about 6 newbies,they tore into another member of staff, who later became a good friend of
mine, with childish, bitchy comments, about
how boring and annoying she was. Just maddeningly unprofessional.
They were massive gossips and caused division.
On facebook there's a group for ex
colleagues and it amazes me how many people are waxing lyrical about what amazing, wonderful people they were, the best bosses ever. It still irks me 25 years later. I know I need to get over it. Does anyone else think of past workplaces like this and still feel pissed about it?

Yeah I still think about stuff that happened and feel sad or angry but then try to put it in context and not give it too much headspace because then I go down a negative hole and start wallowing.

Yes. I don't want to go into details but one place in particular, yes definitely. I'm more or less over it, but I do still feel angry and upset if I allow myself to think about it too much.

Yes I still feel pissed off as a junior apprentice hairdresser. I had just left school and the older ladies were bitchy and made me feel so uncomfortable. I also had to buy specific colours clothes in said work(caramel and brown in autumn/winter,navy and white in spring/summer). Any clothes but had to be these colours. Inevitably they'd get ruined by dye or bleach so it would really show up,the navy in particular. I was on £29.50 a week YTS And has to buy my own clothes. Wish I had the guts to ask for a clothing allowance from the salon. Still pisses me off 34 years later 😡

Oh yes I can think of loads of things that still piss me off decades later! Basically if someone has annoyed me at one point in time then I won't forget it! Obviously there are times when you do calm down and end up forgiving them or understanding why they did it. But it someone was just needlessly cruel, mean or unpleasant for no reason then I'll never think it was OK.

Oh yes, i was talking about a former workplace at a staff party this weekend and I literally had to make myself shut up because I was having an angry rant, ruining the party vibe! It was almost 20 years ago and I can still get worked up.

Yes 100%! There's loads from decades ago that still pisses me off so I just try not to think about it.

Oh yes, I can ruminate for England. I never forget the hurt.

Yes. I call it being reannoyed.

ugh. Teaching days. Got bullied out of a school. Look back and it would be different now, I was so young.

oh yes, there are things current me would tackle differently to younger me. Say no and stand up for myself, leave the job, be more assertive with idiots. The list goes on..
just surprised me how many ex colleagues were really positive about these guys. They were horrid. Bullies actually.

My mother ate the top layer of my wedding cake while we were on honeymoon. It was 23 years ago, and I'm divorced. Still mad about it.

Nooooo!

Oh yes, I hold a grudge forever, so there are a few people on my shit list.

I've got back the Head of Department, who was a nasty bastard from my previous employer. He came to interview where I am now. I was interviewing, he was shocked. He didn't get the job, got a bit stroppy when he didn't, as in his words "he was the best man for the job".

Some things you just can't forgive!