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Smokers smell in room

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Jumpingjackandjill · 17/12/2023 20:11

Unused to be a smoker but I am off them now for about 6 years.

I have sibling hoke for Christmas and it's great. He's at home and he's smoking in the living room.

I am on the fence. To some degree I like the smell of smoke because I missed it.

I don't have the heart to some him to the door or outside.

However there is a smell of smoke in the room and it lingers even when he stops and not there.

I don't have the heart to send him to the door or outside because it's so wet a lot.

I am opening windows every day but it's not really clearing.

Is there anything I can do to help minimise the smell and reduce it and get rid of it.

I have the dehumidifier on on with air purifier but it's only really a smaller machine. I don't think it's very powerful.

I don't think I want to spray air fresheners with perfumes or other stuff or oils. I think that might make it worse.

What do you think I can do?

Is there anything available to reduce smokers smell.

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SD1978 · 17/12/2023 20:37

Your house, he stands outside. I have no issue with smokers doing their thing, but not in the house- they are outside, door closed. It's rude as hell to smoke in someone's house who doesn't smoke.

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Jumpingjackandjill · 17/12/2023 20:41

SD1978 · 17/12/2023 20:37

Your house, he stands outside. I have no issue with smokers doing their thing, but not in the house- they are outside, door closed. It's rude as hell to smoke in someone's house who doesn't smoke.

He did get permission. I never realised the smell was.going to be so heavy. I like to sit in bear gardens and I like smoking yards too. I like the smell of smoke but I never realised or was going to hit me with some intensity.

I don't want to ban him from smoking.

I was wondering if there was any life hack to get to tone down the smokers smell.

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GerriKellman · 17/12/2023 20:45

No there's no hack other than him going outside. It absolutely reeks and if he keeps it up much longer it'll be permanently in your soft furnishings.

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Jumpingjackandjill · 17/12/2023 20:51

GerriKellman · 17/12/2023 20:45

No there's no hack other than him going outside. It absolutely reeks and if he keeps it up much longer it'll be permanently in your soft furnishings.

That's a bit far fetched that it will be permanently there.

I used to be a smoker but I have up. There was no smokers smell for a long time.

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GerriKellman · 17/12/2023 20:52

Crack on then, it's your house.

Manchestermummax3 · 17/12/2023 20:54

I'm a smoker.... smoked since it was normal & common to smoke indoors/pubs etc... since the ban I don't even smoke inside my own house let alone someone else's! (Except occasionally out the kitchen door if it's pissing down)
I get that you gave permission but there's no way opening some windows are going to help. It'll cling to any soft furnishings.
Only solution is he goes outside.
I can't even believe people still smoke inside tbh.

Vitriolinsanity · 17/12/2023 20:56

The smell won't be permanent. When he goes and the windows have been opened it'll be fine.

Fact: I smoked for many years in my house. Stopped for 15. The friends I made in that time and who visited never even knew I'd been a smoker. Not even the daintiest MN nose would have detected it.

I smoke again now. I'm sitting in the garden. I have kids now so won't pass on second hand smoke.

LindorDoubleChoc · 17/12/2023 21:00

No one with an ounce of decency smokes in a non-smokers home these days. All the smokers I know (and I still know plenty) don't even smoke in their own homes! How can you not tell him to just stop it?

F1ymetothetoon · 17/12/2023 21:00

Try lighting some scented candles - the large jar Yankee ones are quite powerful. My DH is a smoker but not allowed to smoke in the house ,however when he comes back inside his breath reeks and stinks out the living room. Yankee saves the day.

Needhelpsupport · 17/12/2023 21:02

I am an occasional smoker but have never smoked in the house ..absolutely hate the smell and always smoke away from doors / windows etc .

NotToYou · 17/12/2023 21:17

Smokers don't even smoke in their own homes any more do they, let alone someone else's?

emmetgirl · 17/12/2023 21:20

Ex smoker here. Nobody will ever smoke in my house. Ever.

rainbowbee · 17/12/2023 22:29

I am an ex smoker. I know what you mean feeling nostalgic over the fresh smoke smell, I do too and I also hate it. Stale is awful. Smoking indoors is a bit anti social these days anyway. Just make the outside a bit nicer for him. Get a big golf umbrella and a wrap he can throw over himself and you can wash after the visit.

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 17/12/2023 23:03

Send him outside, ffs. Everyone else would.

KievLoverTwo · 17/12/2023 23:09

No, nothing will get rid. As a former ex hardcore smoker, I can promise you, we are very very used to getting cold and wet. Ask him to go outside. Say it makes you want to have one and you cannot risk the temptation!

He is taking the Mickey a bit. I wouldn't have dreamt of smoking in a non smoker's house. But maybe you let him think it was okay? Ooopsie.

gano · 17/12/2023 23:50

Oh my god, get him outside! I smoke, but never ever in the house 🤢

SpringIntoChaos · 18/12/2023 06:51

Actually can't believe you are being so passive and permissive here OP!! Nobody smokes in someone else's house!! It's so bloody rude (and fucking gross!!) Your son has absolutely NO manners, and your passivity about this is teaching him that this is ok! It's not ok...get him outside ffs and teach him some basic manners!

SpringIntoChaos · 18/12/2023 06:52

sibling, not son. Apologies.

GarlicMaybeNot · 18/12/2023 09:19

Products like Oust help, though they do smell 'air freshener'. It's also true that candles 'eat' tobacco smoke somewhat - citrus scented ones would be especially helpful, as long as you like citrus scents!

iljafjpr · 18/12/2023 09:43

No point advising this OP. They are on another parallel thread claiming the brother stole her bank card and 60 quid from her wallet but it turned out the card was in the wallet in another section. Instead of either looking carefully or calling the bank/going online to freeze the card she wrote a very long post about it asking what to do, took no notice of any replies and now isn't going to chase up the 60 quid the DB has allegedly taken either.
This smoking one is the same.
Just tell him to smoke outside FFS or don't but if you don't your house will smell of smoke until he leaves and for a long time after he has gone too. Your choice.

readingmakesmehappy · 18/12/2023 09:52

It's incredibly rude to smoke in anyone else's house at all. Especially if you know they're an ex smoker. You WNBU to say "I hadnt realised it would smell so much so I've changed my mind and I'd rather you only smoked outside".

Do you have kids in the house?

Itwasafterallallaboutme · 18/12/2023 11:30

@Jumpingjackandjill - I am also reading your other thread,not sure why you name changed, but that is obviously up to you.

Well over 30 years ago my Dear Departed Mum came to live me, I had recently become a single Mum - not through my own choice. My mother was quite a heavy smoker, she either went outside to smoke (particularly because I had a young baby), or if it was raining she stood in the open doorway to smoke.

Thirty years ago we knew about all the dangers of smoking just the same as we do now, especially when around babies and young children.

I think that it probably wasn't considered as anti-social then as it is now, but it was known to be extremely bad for our health.

As for soft furnishings soaking up the smell of smoking, I have seen at least two houses - each built circa 1930s. In both houses when my friends stripped back the old wallpaper the walls were a dirty yellow colour in places - I don't know if it was the tar or the nicotine (or both) that caused the discolouration (and muted smell). My Grandfather had been a very heavy smoker and had very yelliw finger tips where he held his cigarette, and at that time yellow fingers were called "nicotine fingers", so if that was correct then the walls were probably also yellowed by the nicotine...

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