For some years now ,and yes why haven't I spoken up before,close relatives ask me to bring my own lunch when I visit."We'll be having soup ,a roll and a yoghurt .Can you bring yourself a sandwich ?"
The other day a third party was also going to be present and arriving at 11.30.I was asked "could you have eaten before then "
Cups of weak tea were provided and 4 plain biscuits (one for each of us )on a plate
I travel just over an hour (2 buses and a train ) to get there so it means I have to eat on the train going and then have nothing from arrival time 11.30 to when I get home at 5 ish .
They're not hard up and not ungenerous .I'll be offered a lift to and from station - though traffic often makes this unreasonable to expect,and was recently given an expensive phone .
Both have debilitating chronic health conditions.Both mobile and have prepared their own lunch .
I'm posting partly to get it off my chest and partly to ask what people think is going on here .
I would take less offence if this behaviour didn't predate illness weakening one of them and close proximity to a M&S opposite a coffee shop that they visit daily .Though should be said that one of them would struggle to visit shop and M&S during the same outing .