Supporting someone through angry grief- how did you do it? esp. at Xmas

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My sister is getting divorced. It's a horrible situation- a very unhappy relationship/marriage from start to end with both parties at fault for different things.

She is so so angry with life and I get that, but I'm starting to feel like I'm enabling her. She's starting to think about moving on and 'finding someone who treats me right' but she treated him very badly too.

I really feel like I need to distance from her but she still needs and deserves support too.

I don't think, now that the marriage is over that it really matters what she also did or your personal opinions on it. There's no benefit to bringing them up or factoring them in.

I'd just encourage her to keep busy, find a counsellor and speak to them about processing this and remain as positive as possible about the future when we spoke Hopefully one day she will indeed, meet someone who treats her better with which she is able to have a healthier relationship. Just because this relationship was not a positive one doesn't mean she won't be able to learn from it or share something healthy with another partner in the future.

If you want to spend less time with her by all means do that