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DH has made his annual announcement

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LeggyLegsEleven · 15/12/2023 10:33

He definitely going to send Christmas cards. Every year the week before Christmas he declares this so I now know we are truly in the Christmas season.
He has never sent cards out in time, most years not at all. He will buy cards though, which I occasionally gather up and give away.
He did once send a bunch of cards in January though!

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whatisforteamum · 17/12/2023 10:27

Mine used to run cards round in neighbouring village to aunts etc.
Stressfully last minute.
Buy a xmas pud no one ever ate and mince pies because everyone else did.
All sat there in January.
One year i was so fed up i drop kicked the pudding down the garden much to the amusement of the teens.🤣🤣

tescocreditcard · 17/12/2023 10:27

Every year on 1 December my husband asks if I'd like an advent calender.

Never buys me one. Just asks me if I'd like one.

TheShellBeach · 17/12/2023 10:30

BeyondMyWits · 17/12/2023 08:42

Mine will (not) make a chocolate yule log.

He made one one year that was a tiny bit "cake" and a shit load of melted chocolate as "icing" .... everyone loved it because it was basically 500g of dairymilk on a bit of rolled up cake. (With a sad, wonky, plastic robin on top) . Everyone talks and laughs about Dad's yule log. So he keeps promising (threatening) to make another one.

I think the tradition is having a giggle about it, rather than making one now. He is a lovely bloke and takes it all in good humour.

Ooh that sounds wonderful!
I'd eat that.

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InSpainTheRain · 17/12/2023 10:34

I don't send Christmas cards anymore, but years ago I used to write them all out. One year I had written about 40 cards, DH's contribution was posting them (they were already stamped). I found them in his coat pocket in March!

HardcoreLadyType · 17/12/2023 10:34

LeggyLegsEleven · 15/12/2023 10:33

He definitely going to send Christmas cards. Every year the week before Christmas he declares this so I now know we are truly in the Christmas season.
He has never sent cards out in time, most years not at all. He will buy cards though, which I occasionally gather up and give away.
He did once send a bunch of cards in January though!

Yesterday, DH asked if “we” sent a Christmas card to our next door neighbours.

No. “We” don’t.

CleansUpButWouldPreferNotTo · 17/12/2023 10:36

tescocreditcard · 17/12/2023 10:27

Every year on 1 December my husband asks if I'd like an advent calender.

Never buys me one. Just asks me if I'd like one.

Mine gave me a gin advent calendar one year. On Christmas day 😆

HardcoreLadyType · 17/12/2023 10:37

This is the first year we have not had Quality Street. I said they are shit chocolates, and we have XYZ chocolates, anyway. He said, “but I like toffees”. I suggested he (wait for it) buy some toffees, then. And that is what he has done!

FuzzyCaoraDhubh · 17/12/2023 10:43

This is really lovely. Your Dad was amazing.
Gah. That was in response to the poster's Dad who delivered the cards.

Rickenbackergoodgrief · 17/12/2023 10:44

Every year since the kids left home, my DH has declared at the beginning of December that we're not doing Christmas this year.
Then around this time he asks when I'm putting the tree up.
I say I'm not bothering because we're not doing Christmas this year.
To which he replies, but how can I put your presents under the tree if there isn't one?
Funny way of not doing Christmas DH! 🤭

FuzzyCaoraDhubh · 17/12/2023 10:45

KissTheRains · 17/12/2023 09:13

Every year when I was growing up, from at least 1980 until he couldn't do it any more, my Dad would spend several nights in early december writing out 100s of cards.

After he'd written them all he'd seperate them by area, put them into KwikSave carrier bags and leave them lined up by the front door. Then, around middle December, he'd pick a bag and announce he was "Off delivering" and vanish for several hours with one KwikSave bag, returning with an empty bag and often a little deeper in his cups, as it were.

He had so many friends and acquaintances and would knock on each door to deliver their cards and say hello, sometimes they'd offer him a sherry and after saying no a few times the offer was gladly accepted.

It hasn't felt like Christmas to me since I was a kid, I think that yearly tradition of my dad heading out delivering cards was bigger part of Christmas than I gave credit at the time.

I don't continue the tradition.

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Love this. What an amazing man.

Mummyratbag · 17/12/2023 10:47

This thread has made me laugh. I must prefix this with DH is a loving husband and father who buys me wonderful gifts etc etc ...but we have the card conversation every year...25 years in if cards were sent in his awful handwriting concerns for my welfare would be raised questions would be asked. He printed off photos of our son's first birthday which he was going to send out as thank yous. They are still somewhere around, son is 15 now.

FlatWhiteExtraHot · 17/12/2023 11:15

Alighttouchonthetiller · 17/12/2023 08:57

Charming. Someone has thought about you, taken time to write you a card, paid for a stamp and bothered to post it and you put it straight in the bin. Really unpleasant.

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What difference does it make when they go in the recycling though? Do you keep all your cards forever? I imagine not, so you put them in the bin eventually.

I haven’t sent cards for 20 years. Finally this year people have stopped sending them to me.

Wolvesart · 17/12/2023 11:16

I love receiving cards. If there isn’t an occasion of any kind and the mantelpiece has no cards, the 2 little art frames for postcards go up so there is something similar there.

Re late sending of cards - I tend to feel this is better than early cards. I’d never send them earlier than around the 10th.

I’m amused by the wrapping comments. The DH only wraps his presents to me. It takes him so long and isn’t his skill set 😂

ifIwerenotanandroid · 17/12/2023 11:33

My aunt told me that her DH once offered to post all the Christmas cards she'd just written, & he did it. Then they realised she hadn't put the stamps on yet.

The following year he offered again - & he posted them with no stamps OR addresses.😂

ifIwerenotanandroid · 17/12/2023 11:41

While on a floristry course I worked the last days before Christmas in a florist's shop where I'd been doing one day a week for work experience. By Christmas Eve we'd already shifted more fresh holly & mistletoe than I'd realised existed in the world, & then had to cope with men turning up as we were about to shut for the holidays, expecting to find a shop full of holly for them to buy & saying, "But you can't have run out! It's Christmas! Where am I going to get some now?".😂🙄

BeyondMyWits · 17/12/2023 12:38

My stepmum once sent us all cards with "Buy yourself something nice" inside... rang up mortified that she hadn't included the cheques before my dad decided to post them...

I think I managed to do that apocryphal thing of marrying someone just like my dad... soooooo alike ... in so many ways.

CrushingOnRubies · 17/12/2023 17:59

Nyland · 17/12/2023 06:54

DH wrote cards for his relatives last year but didn't get round to posting them.
This year he has added addresses to those same cards.
Who knows if the stamps will be added and the cards taken to the postbox this week or whether that will be next December's task.

That's a very good idea so long as he didn't write " wishing you all the best for a happy 2023" in all of them

chaosmaker · 17/12/2023 18:44

Alighttouchonthetiller · 17/12/2023 08:57

Charming. Someone has thought about you, taken time to write you a card, paid for a stamp and bothered to post it and you put it straight in the bin. Really unpleasant.

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So how many times do you have to tell people not to write a card and that they go straight in the recycling? It's a waste of trees. Why is it unpleasant. Other people's xmas nonsense is theirs alone.

Reigateforever · 18/12/2023 18:16

There was a time in my youth when the Post Office has three deliveries a day. 8am, 11am and one late afternoon each day, except Christmas and Boxing Day. So, with that in mind when do you think should I be receiving mine?

Sharontheodopolodous · 18/12/2023 18:16

Every year my mother sits and writes out about 150 cards (most to are people she's met once or twice)

Every year,my father is sent off to the postbox,which is about half a mile from their house

The bag includes the cards for her next door neighbours

BarelyCoping123 · 18/12/2023 18:21

I'm as bad as your DH, worse actually - I still have the unsent cards we wrote last xmas, yet I STILL havent made it to the post office with them this year 😫😫😫

BarelyCoping123 · 18/12/2023 18:25

Nyland · 17/12/2023 06:54

DH wrote cards for his relatives last year but didn't get round to posting them.
This year he has added addresses to those same cards.
Who knows if the stamps will be added and the cards taken to the postbox this week or whether that will be next December's task.

Oh dear - i can relate to this 😂😂😂

venus7 · 18/12/2023 18:49

chaosmaker · 17/12/2023 07:08

Cards go straight in the recycling unless they have a point to them, like from people who live abroad.

That sounds joyful; really in the festive spirit!

Mulhollandmagoo · 18/12/2023 18:53

Oh no....I do this, my annual announcement is 'I'm going to make a Christmas cake' I've never made a Christmas cake 😂 I promise the intention is well and truly there!

HelloTreacle9 · 18/12/2023 19:48

DH’s contribution to Christmas (apart from financial as he earns shit loads than me, for which I am grateful) is the annual ham, which is cooked and presented with the most enormous amount of fuss, pomp and applause despite me doing all the other catering, buying and wrapping only my presents, and carving the roast (see above). I love him and we’ve been together a long time but I think he thinks elves do all the other stuff… I stopped sending cards when I was having chemo a decade ago and never bothered again. No-one has noticed, it used to be such a huge burden! Just waiting for the annual New Year resolutions announcement...