Suspicious Behaviour?

[Suspeascious]

DH left for football training this evening at normal time.

As he walked out the house I saw his phone on the side... 20 minutes later he returns home. I said oh what's up? He said he must have left one of his football boots in the garage so had to come home and will have to miss the session this evening.

Anyway, I looked in his bag and both his boots are in there 🤔

Suspicious or am I being crazy.

Suspicious if both boots were in the bag. He didn’t want his phone left unattended while you were around.

@Falalalalaa my thoughts exactly, I'm telling myself perhaps he put the other boot in the bag when he got home but realistically that didn't happen did it 🥴

Just say, what do you mean? Your boots are in your bag ... see how he repsonds?

This will be an unpopular opinion to some but could you check his phone when unattended

@Screwyouloopylou I think he has a massive porn addiction in all honesty which repulses me

Tell him you’re suspicious as both boots were in the bag and ask him if he’s using football practice as an excuse to go and watch porn

Sorry I'm definitely drip feeding here which wasn't my intention. He definitely normally goes to football because he returns with the horrible AstroTurf bits in his socks, and covers himself in deep heat before his session.

I'll ask him tomorrow about the boots being in the bag as he's conveniently fast asleep already 😴

A good few years ago now when we first got together I stumbled upon his love for because his phone was linked to his laptop and I was using it one day and there it was in all its glory.

The porn isn't so much of an issue in its self, everyone's human after all. But he also searches for women on social media, and back then he had an only fans account.

We had a conversation at the time, he promised me that he loved me and would stop and I took his word for it. I've never been tempted to snoop since because no alarm bells have gone off until today.

He's asleep....where's his phone now?

Yes, I’ve got one of those (the porn-sickness I mean). One of the many reasons I’m so resentful of him and am now seriously considering leaving, I’ve actually just started a thread about it!

I honestly think my dh has cheated on me too - no concrete evidence but I found him on affair websites. The mystery of the (non) missing boot sounds well dodgy. You need to get in his phone if you can, do you know his pin? I wouldn’t have any qualms personally.

I really sympathise op - it makes you feel so sick inside when you don’t trust your partner.

@YouStupidGirl I'm sorry you're dealing with the same problem, it crosses a line and becomes perverted. If you're like me I can't think of him with the same lust that I used to before I discovered it.

So I've checked his phone, search history cleared apart from a few things this afternoon (assuming this is now set to clear every 24 hours?). Search history on twitter for an OF girl. Search history on Instagram for a tattoo model. Message history for certain people on social media that I know he used to communicate with has been wiped.

I checked apple pay (for OF payments), I could only see the last 24 hours but can see he spent £25 on fast food today which is an issue for another thread 🙄

Nothing on WhatsApp but I didn't know how to access the archive, nothing via text, however if he's sly enough to delete everything else then makes sense that anything on those avenues would go too.