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Tell me to stop being such a Grinch and to put the bloody decorations up

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OutOfSyncWithReality · 14/12/2023 00:13

I do usually love Christmas. It's a quiet one on the day, but I love the build up - all the lights and the parties. I'll go to all the Christmas markets and book light trails. But this year I can't be arsed. I'm not feeling well. I've got shit going on. I've cancelled on pretty much every Christmas do so far. My Christmas jumpers are unworn. If I don't put the decs up this weekend I'm not going to. And right now, that's fine by me.

So, do I write Christmas off this year and accept I'm just not feeling it or will I feel so much better when the tatt's up and the lights are twinkling in my nest? It just feels like such an effort, and as I say, right now I just can't be arsed.

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vodkaredbullgirl · 14/12/2023 00:14

I've still not put mine up either.

Howmanysleepsnow · 14/12/2023 00:15

Do it. I was in the same situation and feel much better for forcing myself. Plus, you’ll regret it if you don’t.

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OutOfSyncWithReality · 14/12/2023 00:16

Howmanysleepsnow · 14/12/2023 00:15

Do it. I was in the same situation and feel much better for forcing myself. Plus, you’ll regret it if you don’t.

I keep telling myself that, but I'm not sure that I will.

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Howmanysleepsnow · 14/12/2023 00:17

I wasn’t sure either, but I did! Try it, you’ve nothing to lose beyond an hour or so you’d probably have wasted anyway.

vodkaredbullgirl · 14/12/2023 00:17

Mine will probably go up at the weekend, my daughter has had her tree up in her room since middle of November.

time4aNC · 14/12/2023 00:17

Hope you’re feeling soon OP.

My only tip is to make a playlist of a few songs you like and tell yourself you are going to put the Christmas decorations up until the playlist has finished. I find it makes tasks seem more doable and more fun when I’m putting them off.

Precipice · 14/12/2023 00:19

Carry on being a 'Grinch'. Why force yourself? There's no obligation to celebrate Christmas or do anything specific for it.

AdoraBell · 14/12/2023 00:19

Put the decorations up. It could make you feel better. Hope you feel better.

Stoutster · 14/12/2023 00:23

Put the decorations up

GrumpyPanda · 14/12/2023 00:25

Mine go up on the morning of the 24th so plenty of time left OP. Advent is traditionally a fasting period anyway, why blur the distinction?

MintJulia · 14/12/2023 00:27

Mine are going up this weekend. I'm on elf duties.. gable lights, tree, decorations, wrapping. 🙂

theduchessofspork · 14/12/2023 00:31

I am aiming for this weekend..

How bout you just commit to putting some of it up OP - what is easy that you like a lot?

It might be the idea of the whole thing that’s overwhelming.

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OutOfSyncWithReality · 14/12/2023 00:36

I've been watching Christmas food TV for inspiration on the day but I just feel all "meh" about it. Don't even want to listen to Christmas songs. I think the Grinch has sucked out my soul this year.

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Northernsouloldies · 14/12/2023 01:01

In the same boat, if your having a bad time of it I fail to see how putting up Xmas decorations is going to solve that feelings of being down or in deppression.

willowstar · 14/12/2023 06:11

@GrumpyPanda we put ours up on the 24th as well. A hangover from when I grew up in Germany where it was quite common to put the tree up on the 24th. Not sure if it is still the same as that was a long time ago. On the 23rd I make sure that we have everything we need in for the next few days, clean the house, finish off any laundry. On the 24th we put the tree up, light the fire, open the chocolates/Bailey's /Cointreau and listen to carols from King's. That is when our Christmas starts. I know we are all different but I just can't get my head around doing it all really early. I just don't feel Christmas until the 24th.

I put a few outside lights up beforehand though so that people don't think we are complete Grinches!

My children are early teens now and say that the afternoon of the 24th is their favourite part of Christmas ☺️ we are a busy family, somehow the clock stops on the 24th and we just gel together for a few days before back to normal.

dutysuite · 14/12/2023 09:52

My tree has been up a few days, but I’ve not finished putting the decorations on the tree yet, I just can’t be arsed with it all this year. I’ve hardly got any Christmas shopping done, the price of everything has put me off.

Cotswoldbee · 14/12/2023 10:14

Our decorations are going up today, this is about the time they normally go up. 🎄
Present are all wrapped and ready to go straight under the tree.

Work Christmas party Friday evening but I am not going.
It is a formal +1 with sit down dinner, drinks & dancing but I haven't done Christmas do's for years and prefer being at home.

Rhythmisadancer · 14/12/2023 10:23

Give yourself a year off - it seems to come round so quickly these days, you might enjoy it more next year if you have a rest from it all this year!

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OutOfSyncWithReality · 17/12/2023 23:25

Thank you for your messages, both for and against. I put my decs up today and my little nest looks lovely with all the lights. And I am feeling brighter for it, despite the effort it took. Have a good festive break everyone x

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Howmanysleepsnow · 18/12/2023 23:36

Happy Christmas @OutOfSyncWithReality

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