.. and, if so, to who?
I'll try and keep this brief if I can. I started a new waitressing job in Oct and shortly quit after 3 weeks, for a few reasons.
- - I didn't get paid properly. The boss/owner agreed he would sort this out with me but never did. I only got paid £25 after each 9hr shift and I worked everyday during the 3 weeks, as he asked.
- - I got outright harassed by another member of staff. This (alongside the issue with pay) was the main reason I quit tbh. This person was texting and calling outside of work hours. I had 9 missed calls from him and never answered, so he left me voicemails instead, crying telling me to call him back etc.
I also had 9 really inappropriate texts from him stating I was "gorgeous" calling me "darling" etc. All very very over the top and again extremely inappropriate. I've attached two screenshots of the texts I received, for context and so no one can accuse me of exaggerating or of lying.
While I was on shift he was constantly in my face and personal space. I'd move away from him (further down the bar) and he'd follow. He'd order lunch at the same time as me and sit at the same table, so I couldn't get away from him even during my lunch break. He'd follow me outside and stand right to me during a my smoking breaks and find constant excuses to talk to me like complaining about his relationship with his carer, what happened yesterday, could I pour him a pint (he shouldn't be drinking whilst on shift anyway) but the boss, again didn't give a sh!t.
He wanted "to walk me" to my bus stop every night and often would just follow me, after I'd said I didn't need him to or want him to. He'd stand there, hovering around me until my bus turned up. He even went in to kiss me one night as I was about to get on the bus and I turned away him, as I'm not attracted to him in the slightest.
I'd pretty much ignore him during this behavior, and only talk to him when needed for e.g. we needed to communicate about what needed doing, tables wiping down, stock checks, bookings, closing the bar and locking up etc.
The other staff warned me this he does this to all the new girls! It's absolutely vile and the boss excused it by saying "oh, he's a womaniser, he's in love with you, he fancies you" etc etc. Personally I couldn't give hoots how he feels about me or not. No one should be subjected to this kind of behaviour and it's hugely concerning to me that he has form for it and still hasn't been displined or sacked for it!
It wasn't just me he targeted either. He bought me and another girl (colleague, who's engaged btw) a bunch of flowers and I deliberately didn't take them home, despite his pestering and reminding me I'd forgotten about them.
I know I said I'd try and keep it brief, but I needed to put this into context and get it out my head. I've only spoken to a few people about it real life, including my stepmum, who rightly warned me to stay well away from him, as he clearly became very attached and even obsessed with me.
I felt like I'm just ranting now and I suppose I am, but I'm just so angry about what I experienced. It seems to me like he preys on women, going by what the other staff and boss said about him.
Has anyone has had similar experiences in the workplace? And how did you handle it? Did you report it and was anything done about it?