Are we just posting into the void?

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Sometimes on mumsnet or some other forum I will post a reply to a persons post, hopefully saying something supportive or comforting and sometimes it will be somewhat revelatory. Other times you just post your favourite washing powder or who your weird crush is and in some ways it feels like you are taking part in a conversation except it isn't.

You never know if anyone reads what you wrote, if it was any help. People rarely reply or even do the new thanks thing and its fine I probably don't either that much but I was just thinking that in many ways we are just all talking to ourselves more than to each other.

Totally the same here too.

I learned SO MUCH. So much i wouldn't know where to start.

But most importantly i've learned to have more tolerance with certain things/situations/people and to have zero tolerance with other ones.

On the property forum people like to reply to your posts. Mainly to tear them to shreds but still.

Threading could really help Mumsnet. It's difficult to quote and refer back to, and do back and forthing between posts. That pretty much kills any discussion.

As someone said beyond two pages, you just see people chiming in with pretty much the same responses, as they can't be bothered to back read either.

Please no. I hate the sites that have this.

I’ve learned so much on here over the years. If I’d known about it when I was married I would have stood a much higher chance of LTB many years. Wdiew I eventually did. Many things I accepted as ok or normal were very much not. I’d led a very sheltered life though and didn’t realise. All I knew was I was deeply unhappy and felt infantilised . Some of the posts on here are so wise and insightful. Loads are absolutely bonkers, some are useful and some have made me really look at situations differently.

That was supposed to be ‘LTB many years before I eventually did.

But sometimes, when someone really thinks they are in the right, it can take ten pages of absolutely everyone coming in to say that they are wrong and why before they start to recognise that they might have a problem. Sometimes force of numbers can be a good thing. Also, if you're trying to rationalise your relationship, and every single answer tells you that your partner is being a dick, it can quietly persuade you that maybe you're with the wrong person.

Sometimes I think it's a waste of time, but there really are some threads where someone replies or corroborates or moans at me, so now and again what I have written must have been read. I have definitely learned useful things from the health threads and the book thread.
I wonder how long this sentence will exist in the ether?

My problem is if I see something I want to quote I feel I have to do it immediately because otherwise if I keep reading the whole thread I’ll then have to scroll down through hundreds of posts to find it again.

so I quote, with a reply. Then read the whole thread. And sometimes realise now my answer is pointless or has been said a dozen times.

Glad you finally did. I think MN can be a great source of relationship advice. I know it’s easy for people to say ltb but it’s often warranted. The OP can obviously still weigh up the pros and cons.