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takemebacktothe90sSsSs · 13/12/2023 04:57

Posted this on the ND board but then realised it's hidden and the posts don't get much response. Please be kind/gentle...//

I'm really struggling with my friend situation. I've always struggled to make friends and I find it hard to keep them too.

I have adhd and I'm pretty certain I have autism or some other ND.

I feel like I just repel friends and people in general

Primary school seemed to be okay, I was in with a "quiet" group and was in the choir etc. Secondary school was the point where I noticed the shift.

I have no friends from school years, no friends from Uni or any of the jobs I've worked in over the years. People just seem to dump me and I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

I just don't feel valued and I'm so lonely.

I don't know why I'm posting because I know it won't change anything, but wide awake as usual at this time and just going over it in my mind.

OP posts:

Bearin · 13/12/2023 07:36

@Sirian you sound like me. In the past I have often been invited to a drinks or pub grub but after would never be included again.
Always ignored in the class what's app group if I asked a question or posted a reply. I've stopped replying in my kids whatsapp as I was always ignored.

43ontherocksporfavor · 13/12/2023 07:48

I have found out my neighbour is autistic. It explains a lot. He can totally ignore me if I step out and he’s not expected to see me. Other times if he sees me coming he’ll greet me in a very rehearsed, unnatural way. It’s hard to get to know him because he appears so uncomfortable around others.Just one person with autism and everyone is different. I work in primary school and obviously we have autistic chn and it’s the same thing I see playing out for them. So many small social interactions, expressions and nuances are missed. Not their fault of course but can explain the friendship difficulties.

squeekychicken · 13/12/2023 08:00

I'm sorry op. That sounds really difficult for you. Like others have said, you just haven't found your tribe.

I follow Autism Level Up on Facebook, and have watched training delivered by the founders. One of them is ND. You might find it helpful x

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