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Wtf is going wrong?

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Coolstorysis · 12/12/2023 17:32

We live on a council estate, Me and two boys. We are subject to nightly harassment from "youths". Kicking doors, tipping bins and what not. The other night a 3 foot solid bar came through my window.

Been harassed going to the shop, throwing things at us etc. Police very nice but useless, housing association pretty much the same. We are quiet, kids don't go out obviously, wtaf are we supposed to do?

The kids around here seem to be actual psychopaths, the authorities seem to offer sympathy but nothing else. I can't afford to move obviously, I'm so depressed.

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Coolstorysis · 12/12/2023 18:35

It's like Lord of the fucking flies crossed with the hunger games around here.

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Uricon2 · 12/12/2023 18:36

I agree with @IncompleteSenten . You shouldn't have to move, but the priority is you and your kids. Put your energy towards that, not what "should" (and it really should) happen.

Santaiswashinghissleigh · 12/12/2023 18:41

Keep the dc off school.. Say you are too scared to leave the house.... Contact MP and say your dc's education is now suffering.. See GP for antidepressants...

herbygarden · 12/12/2023 18:43

I'm so sorry Op, that sounds absolutely unbearable. Try your local MP, most have a 'clinic' I think that you can visit.

Goldusty · 12/12/2023 18:44

Coolstorysis · 12/12/2023 18:35

It's like Lord of the fucking flies crossed with the hunger games around here.

Blimey OP you poor sods! I can’t believe you have to put up with this. I hope some of these replies give you some new ideas to try. People like you don’t belong in these places so I’m hoping you’ll find your peace sometime soon. Unfortunately I don’t think I’m streetwise enough to give you any useful advice…

IncompleteSenten · 12/12/2023 18:45

Yes, sadly I completely understand.

It is no way to live.

The housing association will not do anything unless you become more of a problem where you are than it would be to move you.

You have to hold them accountable for failing to assist you in escaping. Really highlight the hate crime aspect. That's your strongest card with them. I know how awful that sounds but it's true.

Get organisations on board. Make yourself a pain in the arse. Not in an abusive way of course.

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Coolstorysis · 12/12/2023 18:53

Yeah we kept our heads below the parapet for a long time but the fucking pole through the window was above and beyond. I'm sick to the back teeth of it. Willing to make a fuss now.

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BibbleandSqwauk · 12/12/2023 18:59

I'm so sorry op. I hope you can act on some of the suggestions here and find a solution but I'd love to redirect people to this thread when anyone in MN dares to suggest that council estates can foster or house a certain type of behaviour and they get shot down as snobs. Until we as a society are honest about this and look at the causes, we'll not improve things.

Iwant2beJessicaFletcher · 12/12/2023 19:05

I have some professional knowledge of this:

  1. Read your HA ASB policy
  2. Follow it to the letter - preferably communicate with them via email so you have a paper trail of everything
  3. Report every incident, every time to the Police. 999 or via online reporting (depending how serious it is)
  4. Ask for an 'ASB case review' (also known as a Community Trigger - this is a request for a multi agency review of Housing, Police, Council etc.)
  5. Be really clear, in writing, what you want the outcome of your complaint to be - i.e. the youths to not come to your property again, a managed move away from area etc. If you are clear, they can let you know if what you want it achievable or realistic and you will know where you stand.
Good luck
Notthatcatagain · 12/12/2023 19:25

We had a drug den opposite us, cars all day and night especially weekends, working girls too. Big burly men taking carrier bags full of cash to very fancy cars at about 4am. Honestly I could have written a book. Council and police were useless. Spoke to our local Councillor and in less than a fortnight she had them out. Get your Councillor to badger the housing ppl for a move for you

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Coolstorysis · 12/12/2023 19:35

Thanks for all the advice. I least I can take comfort in the fact my kids are lovely and I don't have to live full time with one of the little scrotes Grin (gotta take a win where you can find it)

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Santaiswashinghissleigh · 12/12/2023 20:49

We had bother with a neighbour's ds... He was about 10 when it started. Trying to smash out fence, spitting at us through the fence. Swearing etc. So I started hosing my paving whenever he appeared... And soaked the little fucker. His df came round..i told him I was maintaining my own property and he had no business being there..
He upgraded to sexually assaulting a 4yo neighbour... They moved but didn't report him. Never understood that. Hopefully he was locked up eventually..

mrandmrsrobinson · 12/12/2023 21:18

Write to your MP, the Chief constable and the Home Secretary. If nothing is done in 28 days then copy The Times.

hattie43 · 12/12/2023 21:25

This is disgusting, how are people supposed to live like this . Why as a society are we not tackling people who live outside of society norms .

WhatsInStoreFor2024 · 12/12/2023 21:36

How do you suggest we do that @hattie43 ?

Police don't have the powers
Schools don't have the resources

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