WWYD - baby stuff related

[TheBeesBollox]

The situation:
A few months after having your first baby you're clearing out the first round of baby stuff you no longer need. You give it to a friend who you know is also longing for their first child and about to start TTC.
Fast forward eight months and you are pregnant with dc2. (At this point you haven't seen this friend for a long time.) They message you saying you will probably need the baby stuff again before they do, as it is taking longer than they hoped to conceive, so would you like it back?

You don't need or want any of the things you gave them.

How would you reply/WWYD?

Take it off their hands.
If they are struggling to conceive it’s a horrible reminder that they are still baby free.
Just answer that you are happy to collect it, you can take it to the charity shop if you don’t want it.

I would say thank you for offering the items back but we have been gifted lots so don’t worry.Do hope you get happy news soon. Just friendly and positive as you say you haven’t seen them for a long time that is enough.

If you tell her you don't want the items, she'll think you were offloading your crap stuff and getting nicer things for your own baby. I'd just take it off her hands then quietly bin.

It was far too premature to pass the stuff on to someone who hadn't even conceived tbh!

Just say something like "Thanks for thinking of us. It was a gift not a loan and we have a lot of stuff for new baby already, so please keep it if you want. But if you do want to rehome it, I'm sure we can make good use of it"

I'd take it back off them if they insist they want to give it back. Then either use some of it or resell/donate it on marketplace or a buy nothing group. I know it's adding another chore to your plate, but it's a minor one and if I were having fertility issues i can imagine both wanting the stuff gone from the house but not emotionally being able to bin/donate it to strangers.

I'd tell them that you were not expecting the items back so they are theirs to keep. That way they can donate if they want. I'd just be really sure that you don't want anything back, don't be that person that remembers 3 months down the line that you gave her the blanket that you bought your first baby home in so absolutely need it back, by which point she might have donated or thrown it away.

Thanks for the replies. I'm actually the other friend in the situation - just wanted to check I wasn't being oversensitive to have been a bit upset by the complete lack of any kindness or even awareness from her about my situation. Just got a "no thanks you can keep it" type message. (It's not as if it was straightforward for her to get pregnant, although once started seems she can do it easily. But I thought there would have been some awareness of longing for a baby you're terrified you'll never have.)

Trying to just hide the stuff but it's difficult to even face doing that right now.