Married but separated man?

[Mountainred]

I've always been very wary/moralistic about this. He's married, I'm not getting involved.

But, this is a good one and it's making me question my own rules. What's a sensible amount of time, after the separation,to consider getting involved and in usual circumstances what's a reasonable amount of time to expect the divorce to have been finalised?

I’ve been married for 23 years to someone who was separated and in the throes of a divorce when we met. We were far too old to even think of having children and still have separate finances.

I’m reading this with interest as I’ve been separated from my husband for 6 months, just starting to think about dating, no particular plan to divorce and it hadn’t occurred to me that separated but not divorced might be an issue.

I met my husband when he had been separated about six months - his divorce was finalised about seven months after we started dating. Until reading this thread I didn’t think that was particularly controversial…!

If they are (truly) separated and he has made the decision to see other people, then that’s what he is doing to do;, with you or with someone else. Unless you have major religious objections, I don’t think this is your moral decision to make, it’s his.

Well I'm not anything ATM and have no intention of being so until he's sorted his living arrangments

Believe me, zero men care about this! I dated a lot when I was still married!

H