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Is it possible to build a happy life of casual dating/friendships?

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Christmasmishap · 11/12/2023 14:58

I be single coming up for 3 years. I'm happy, I have built a good single life with lots of friends and interests, rewarding work that doesn't impinge to much on the rest of my life, I travel a lot with friends and alone, it's all good.

However (of course there's a but) I do also like men, male attention company and sex. I'm not a ONS person, but equally I'm really not looking to build a long term future with someone. I can't ever see myself living with someone again or in the kind of relationship where your default for holidays etc is to go together for example.

This weekend I went on to a club after a party with a casual acquaintance. We had the best evening, but his circumstances are such that it's not the tight time for anything serious, which suits me lovely.

In my history of what's "normal" after such a good evening, we'd date again and see where it goes, but what if from the start, no matter how wonderful they are, you know you don't want it to go anywhere?

I married very young and was married for more than 30 years, so have no idea what a single life that includes some dating and sex looks like. What happens if you meet a good one?

What do I need to know?

OP posts:
Christmasmishap · 11/12/2023 15:44

Anyone?

OP posts:
TitInATrance · 11/12/2023 15:47

If you want to see / date this person again, you have to be very clear that you are looking for something casual and non-exclusive. Reinforce the boundary every time it comes up.
It’s perfectly possible and suits me too.

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