People liking every single FB photo

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I've got an acquaintance on Facebook (sort of an ex customer, who I still do occasional work for).

This person likes every single photo on FB (not just the album) and every single post, even when it's inappropriate.

I don't know how to stop them, as it feels very intrusive.

I've put them on restricted access, but then they kept texting and phoning me, saying they couldn't see my page and I could I friend them again (I hadn't unfriended them, just put them on restricted view).

How can I stop them seeing things, without them harassing me if I restrict them? (It's partly my fault as I've just posted some photos, forgot about them and they liked every single one).

If you don't want people to like/comment/whatever then don't post photos etc.

But it's social media, they are socialising with you. You can restrict post by post it you want to though, it's in the post settings.

I can't understand what the problem is. Maybe she likes your photos hence why she hit like. That's what the like button is there for after all!!!

it sounds like you don't know how Facebook works, If you only want certain people to see your photos create a list. and what is inappropriate photos 😳

It’s not about them liking the photos - it’s bloody weird that what I assume is a client, rather than a friend is hassling you to say “I can’t see your photos”.

Personally I would actually unfriend them and when they contact you say “sorry I’ve decided that my Facebook is now for close friends and family only - but here’s the link to my LinkedIn page - happy to connect there”.

I don't have inappropriate photos. Eg, I out up a post about my brother dying, she liked it and then asked when she could see me. Ditto my dad.

I'm aware of how FB works, I just don't want her seeing my posts and want to now how to block her, without her knowing.

If I don't post for a few days she phone me at all hours (as late as 1am, early as 6am), to find out

I have 2 lists. Former colleagues and friends & family. Former colleagues only get to see the occasional joke. Sort of a checking in to say I'm still here.

but she's put her client on her personal Facebook so she is regarded as a social media 'friend" so photos is a free for all and depending on the friends Facebook the pictures might be showing up separately that's why they are liking them all. as I said put them on a restricted list.

Well that just doesn't happen does it!?or you would be blocking her and possibly going to the police as its harassment!

If she really is that stalkerish then surely you'd just block her entirely?!

This is why I NEVER add any work /clients /families I work for

If they ask I say I keep my
Professional /work and personal life seperate

How often do you post that she would notice after a few days?
Are these all personal posts or business ones too?

People put up photos etx and others reply or like

You can't moan at her for liking stuff if you have her on your Fb

Sometimes the care /sad button doesn't always work for me

Block her or say you are making your Fb friends only

You need to create a restricted friends group (which may include everyone on your friends list except this person), and make that your default audience for your posts.

Once in a while, add an innocuous post to your whole friend list, including this person.

This person will see only those posts. If challenged, you can say that you're not posting on Facebook so much now.

You could even create a restricted friends group with only that person, then make a post about taking a break from social media, or a New Years resolution to spend less time online. That post gets an audience of one... your annoying person.

It's easy to control your Facebook audience and ease your way out from someone without the nuclear option of unfriending them.

Oh wow, they're just being friendly. I always appreciate it when someone like all the photos. It means they've actually looked at them! I'm pretty sure most people just scroll by a set of holiday photos (or whatever) and click on like without actually looking at them. I know I do!
How is not appropriate for her to like certain photos? You're the one posting them. If you dont want people to look at particular photos then don't post them.

100% this. She died t sound like just an enthusiastic FBer who likes photos if she's calling you at odd times too. Time to nip in the bud.

*doesn't

Really? She actually phones you at 1am saying she can't see you posts? I find this hard to believe. If so, just block her because she's unhinged.

Weird, just unfriend them and when they ask say you’re only using FB for family from now on and don’t engage with them anymore.

@SallyWD You may find it hard to believe but it's true. She's also started love you at the end of her calls, which my daughter was 😱at.

It's quite complicated. It's not a business page and I don't have a business.

My DH used to have a business, which included repairs and putting things in something (trying to be ambiguous). When he packed up, the elderly gentleman (who this woman lives with, along with his wife, they're not related, not sure why they live together), wanted him to carry on. I agreed I would do it for him only, but somehow she also latched on. There are places that provide this service, but I literally do them at cost.

The amount of these things they have is bizarre. Most people have one or two, they give 25-30 at a time. I don't mind doing it as such, my DH likes the elderly gentleman, so it's a favour, but they pay for the things we replace. It would cost them a fortune to get them done by someone else.

She only came onto my page as the business closed down just before lockdown and we didn't have the gentleman's phone number. She found me on FB and friended me.

I don't mind her liking the odd photo, that's fine. But it's every single photo. She doesn't understand boundaries and although she's in her late 50s I don't think she could live alone. So I know there's no malice, she is pleasant enough, just not a friend, but I think she's misunderstood and now thinks we are friends. She even phones Christmas and New Year's Days (and no, I don't even phone my best friend, so I don't think that's normal).

I'm very, very bad at enforcing boundaries, which is why I put her on restricted, but she kept badgering me, so I took her off, but don't want her clogging up my feed, so I'm aware of her constantly. My old CPN and therapist both suggested assertiveness classes to me, so I realise that it's my fault and I should have just put her on restricted from the beginning.

@skilpadde thank you. I will do this. The idea of doing a post saying I'm taking a break, that only she can see, will solve the problem I think. Thanks.

@skilpadde ’s idea is a good one.
A better one would be to unfriend her, block her number and move on. The old gentleman can either find someone else to do the whatever-it-is or just engage with your DH. You don’t need to be involved, do you?

Just end the arrangement. If you’re doing whatever it is as cost and no longer have the business this sounds like a pain in the backside (even just from keeping the records for tax etc).

As it’s not a business page I would just post less or keep your posts to a select few. As suggeted posting that you are having a FB break is a great idea.

I have a FB contact who is almost guaranteed to like everything I post and is generally the first to like. It is odd as I’ve never even met her but I think she’s lonely. Her own FB feed is full of multiple reposts per day.