I don't want to do this any more

[Jumpingjackandjill]

I don't want to do this any more. I don't want to help

My parents were long term separated and they never divorced. Until about 7 years ago and they were about 23 years separated at the time, and my mother started on a divorce.

The whole thing has been a mess from start to finish. My father has alcohol issues and he hardly engaged with the process.
Eventually my mother became apathetic about it too.

Currently, the divorce process is still open with no finish in sight. The solicitors are leagl aid ones and they are useless. Both of them like to take a back seat. So basically there's no one really to drive it and push it forward.

There is some important things to finish up about the family home and it's ownership and that can only really be finalised through the divorce. Then there is other things too. If anything happens to her, they are still married and he is irrisponsible utlimately he will be a decision maker in anything about her old age.

The whole thing is a mess really.

She's extremely apathetic about it all now. She will hardly engaged with the process of divorce now.

I do believe there and to be someone there that will apply pressure to the solicitor to keep it going and drive it forward hut my mother doesn't even have that in her.
The divorce has been going on now for so long.
I have a sibling living abroad and he's kinda taking it on to drive it forward. He contacted me over the course of the weekend to pretty much ask me to move it on and apply pressure to the solicitor and see where she is.

I don't want to be involved any more. My brother abroad is expecting me to chase up on her solicitor and to bring our mother into town to chase up on the solicitor and on forms in his office.

I don't want to do this any more. I don't want to help my mother any more. She has a disgusting apethetic attitude to it. I won't get any thanks for helping her but just abuse from her. There's no excuse in the world for what she did either. She choose to ignore a divorce for decades and still not she won't push it forward.

It's not up to be to push this forward.

She can divorce with a no fault rule. That’s easy.

She has been in possession of the property for 23 years and assume she paid the mortgage.

I wouldn’t mention the divorce more about what she wants in old age and if she want your dad in charge of that? What would happen if he sold the house and drunk himself to death or gambled it away?

Are you living at home?

Do they have to divorce if neither of them can be bothered going ahead with it?

Just say no and repeat it. No I won’t help.

They're both adults if they don’t want to get divorced then they will reap the consequence of that.

Why is your sibling so involved?

They're solicitors, not magicians. Solicitors require instructions from their clients to keep matters moving. No instructions equals no progress. I bet they've chased (possibly multiple times) but they can't force your parents to engage, that's on them.

Your parents are the problem here.