Office crushes....is this true?

[NormalForNuneaton]

I heard this on the radio yesterday and it resonated with me. ...someone was saying that in an office environment you will often have a crush on someone (anyone?!) who is vaguely your age.

They might not be your type at all but boredom at work and the desire to make being at work more interesting means that you find yourself having a bit of a crush on them.

I'd not really had this until I got a new boss a year ago. He's really not my type ... . he's shorter than me, is a bit overweight, does my head in a bit with the way he flits from task to task, doesn't do himself any favours with how he talks to people sometimes .....but there's still something about him (and it definitely makes my days more enjoyable!)

<disclaimer ... this is meant to be light hearted. I'm not going to have a fling, I'm not condoning workplace affairs ... blah, blah, blah ....>

I fell really hard for someone at work who wasn't attractive at all to me to begin with, but we had a really.close working relationship and developed a relationship full of trust, which was needed for the work we were doing. Then when things got really stressful we leaned on each other a lot....

I've had a couple of silent work-based crushes in my time.

Both were men who really made me laugh, and who appeared to seek me out for banter. Neither was my usual type physically.

There were other men with whom I worked closely, with whom I'd trust my life, but no crushes involved.

In my current and last few workplaces, no...none of the men are the right age or they're gay or married!

But in the past, (around 10 years ago) yes...and I definitely used my work crushes to help get me through the mundane aspects.

Not going to lie, I'd love to have a bit workplace (or any!) crush right now. There's been no one that I've fancied for ages and I'm bored (and single).

Believe it or not this is how people in the olden days often met their future spouses….isn’t friendship a good precursor to a relationship and work is one of the few places you get to know someone where there’s no immediate sexual pressure.

oh god yes!! this has happened to me twice. both guys were not my usual type at all and both incredibly annoying too.

it's embarrassing. when I left those jobs, gathered hindsight & took my beer goggles off - I felt a bit nauseous that I even fancied them 😂

Excellent viewpoint @wudubelieveit

hadn’t thought of it like that .. can get chatting and learning a lot about each other with no sexual pressure .
That’s a relaxing environment to bond in .

@Trez1510 ....aaah, yes, current crush makes me laugh a lot. We do have a lot of "banter".

That's probably a big part of it.

@Wahtnow .... sounds like that went beyond a crush.

What was the point at which it went from crush to more?
(just being nosey so please feel free to say if you'd rather not answer)

This is 1000% true. Find yourself daydreaming about some dude who would otherwise barely register.

I think it’s boredom and also our need to find connection with the people we spend time with!

"Office hot"....the best of a bad lot and someone that you would gave no interest in really.

It only really happens out of boredom I think but no doubt some people do meet this way.

"Office hot" is a good term for it. Very different standards to the usual "hot".

Would men recognise this do you think? (as in realising that the "office hot" crush, is just down to boredom and seeking a bit of excitement at work? Or would they lap up the attention whoever it's from?)