I have no godchildren

[MrsAir]

I have three of my own children who I adore and a lovely husband. My children all have godparents but I have no godchildren. This makes me feel like I am not a trusted friend. Some friends have chosen not to have children but it is on my mind. Am I ridiculous? I have a busy social life and my sister has asked me to be a guardian to her children if - godforbid- anything happened to her.

Is this all in my head of does anyone feel the same?

In my adult life, I’ve only ever seen friends and acquaintances choose godparents for their children who have elevated social status, jobs and standing. Never have I seen a choice of godparent who is less well off.

My sample size is fairly small though, as I don’t know that many people who have had their children christened. Maybe ten or so children.

I don’t have any godchildren either, I’ve never realised until I saw your post <3 tbh I’m not too worried

No one I know has godchildren! What even does it mean anymore?

I was asked to be Godmother my a friend. She was an only child so had no siblings to ask plus she needed a Catholic godparent (I am but not practicing). Neither of my DCs were christened so I've never had to ask anyone to fulfill that role. I honestly couldn't tell you anything much about my own godmother as she had very little involvement in my life as we moved areas not long after i was baptised so probably only ever met her a couple of times.
I think you are overthinking the whole thing tbh.

I have four godchildren and two honarary godchildren... The latest addition was 9 when she was baptised. Apparently when they discussed the service she annouced that she wanted me to be her godmother! I was very flattered!

I have 3 but haven't seen them for years. It's just a religious thing really isn't it so if your friends aren't religious it's understandable why you don't have godchildren. I don't even know many new parents who actually have their kids christened these days?

I don't have any, either. I have friends who are church-goers, and I was invited to the christenings, but between all their children, I've never been asked, and occasionally, in my bleaker moments, it makes me wonder why I didn't make the cut.

A friend was telling me last weekend how he was looking after his teenage godchildren, and a little part of me thought, I'm much more reliable and respectable, especially 15 years ago! Not that I know these particular children - but of all the friends I have, who've had their children baptised - not one. And you can't ask, "why wasn't I good enough?" It shouldn't matter anyway. Only a little bit of it does hurt.

Meant to add - I'm in my 50s and still in touch with all three of my godparents, though geography means I don't see them often. My sister is with hers, too (at least the ones which are still alive.)

Mine have them but for various reasons I wish we hadn't bothered.

I am my two nephews Godmother but only because they needed a baptised Catholic as one of their God parents ,and vice versa with my children and my sister as one of their Godparents incidentally my kids don't see the rest of their of their Godparents due to a family rift so.its meaningless.

Lots of people don't get their dc baptised so there's no need for godparents. Being a godparent and being the nominated person to be a guardian if the worst should happen are two entirely different things anyway.

Nobody has ever asked me to be a godparent.

One of my oldest friends picked a "fun' person she liked to get drunk with to be a godmother to her son, despite this friend being an atheist.

My now ex friend actually had a large pool of other friends that actually belonged to the church that she could have asked.
I think that just about sums up how serious the average person takes christenings nowadays.