Why am I feeling like this again this Christmas?

[ChristmasBlu123]

Had a bad breakup mid 2021 after 5 years together, where I was discarded out of the blue. It took me about 1.5 years to feel like myself again and have been feeling relatively okay. However, I got quite down in myself last Christmas and can feel it starting again now, am beginning to dread Christmas. Feel like I just can't be bothered. It's not that I'm pining for him - I'd never go back there, so don't know really why I'm feeling like this.

Anyone else experience similar?

I think winter and Christmas is a time of reflection. I used to get caught up in the whirlwind of nights out and rushing about but I just don't have the energy for it anymore.

There is also an expectation to be happy and not forgetting recently having survived a global pandemic.

I plan to do what I can. Mostly I hope to rest.

I imagine its the story you are telling yourself about xmas. Pay attention to the thoughts in your head. Do you do that? Our thoughts and emotions are linked. Change the narrative in your head. Make a list , write it down even, of all the things you are looking forward tabour this xmas. See if that changes your emotional state too!

Yes, I also have no interest in the constant rushing around either. Am looking forward to some quiet time, as well as seeing family and friends, but 'big' nights with large groups don't interest me any more.

Are you alone op? I find that the cosiness of a relationship / children is difficult to replicate at Christmas - could it be that?

I speak from vast experience. This is the third Christmas post break up right?

Yes, I'm alone, and yes, it's the third.