I feel like crap

[Ilikesand]

I had a trully shitty experience today, and it's completely dragged me down into a hole. I don't want to drown in self-pity but I think I am on a slippery slope, so please just talk me up a bit. I'm really struggling with the cost of living situation atm and I try to save wherever I can and buy offers where possible so I can batch cook and save money. I was made redundant some months ago and have been struggling to find a new role that also lets me look after my DC as I am on my own.
I was late getting to the shops today and when I got there I had just missed the last pack of multipack offers in the meat section. It was literally taken by someone else the moment I reached for it. I apologised in advance and asked the guy if there was any chance he'd let me have it as it would really help me out. At first I thought he was ok because he asked why it would make a difference. I explained the batch cooking and I usually make the same meals that DC eats. He turned into a total arse then and said that he needed it too, because he did the same thing and cooked stuff for his dog, and that he's tired of people like me expecting everyone else to sort my problems.
I totally understand that he needed it himself, and I would have accepted that. But the dog comment made me so feel so shit about myself. There are people buying the same food I make for my DC and they give it to their dog, and who clearly look down on me.
It was my own fault. I was late to get to she shop, but why do people feel the need to kick you when you are down.
Please tell me that it's just some assholes out there like this, and that the majority of people are not like this.

Of course not everyone is like this. The word is full of good people. I wish you had met one of those today instead of the Knobhead you did encounter. I'm sorry that happened to you OP. You are doing a great job, under bloody tough circumstances.

OP most people are essentially good. Ignore comments from that asshole. I certainly would not feel bad about your child and his dog eating the same thing. I am sure it is decent.

@Ilikesand i understand what you mean how you felt,
however ive experienced on the whole much more better people than that in life especially since my health has nose dived a few years it's made me realise that,

in life of course you are going to come across an Arsehole unfortunately now and again
that's the rich tapestries of life,

when you think of Arseholes like that one you come across they are in their minority , not the majority of people,

in his eyes 👀 its back to basics, self preservation thing, when times are hard you see the good of humanity and dregs like behaviour too,
such as life can be or is..

i would look at ways that are relatively inexpensive of seeing how you can improve your self esteem,
so you are not emotionally at the mercy of individuals behaviour ect.

There was no need for him to make those comments. He's an arse!

Hope you feel better soon 🌻

Hi OP. Just to say that I really admire your confidence in asking whether the man would be willing to let you have the multipack and explaining why. You're so obviously trying to do the best for your family. I would bet that 99% of people would have happily given up the multipack for you and your kids, I certainly would. Keep going, and it will get better. Don't dwell on the behaviour of bellends like him, most people are better than that.

I hope you’re ok Ilikesand! 💐 Unfortunately you are always going to meet people in life who are unkind and rude. Most people behave like that because they are unhappy. Maybe he has just lost his job or a family member; maybe he is on the brink of losing his home; maybe he is in the middle of a messy divorce etc. It doesn’t excuse his awful unkind behaviour but happy people don’t normally behave like that. Don’t let it get you down. Your child is the most important person in the world to you so don’t give this unhappy rude man another thought! I, like most people, would never have said such an unkind thing to another person. Keep going; it will get better for you!

You've no reason to feel bad about yourself, OP. Thar man is a selfish arsehole. How dare he make, and voice, assumptions like that. The whole interaction speaks negative volumes about him. Please don't let him bring you down. Sending a big hug.