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Would you live abroad for 6 months without your boyfriend?

46 replies

pplopplopplopp · 06/12/2023 21:31

Been together for four and a bit years, lived together for two and a half years.

Job opportunity to live in Hong Kong for 6 months. Dp has a job here in the UK. He can work from home, so would be able to come out and visit in 2 week chunks or so. No real financial upside. Just for the professional experience and to grow as a person.

Would you do it?

OP posts:

SheilaFentiman · 06/12/2023 21:56

Yes

staybyyou · 06/12/2023 22:02

I did, well not for quite as long as that, but I did two separate stints abroad for work. DP came out in the middle of both for a couple of weeks. It was a fantastic opportunity for me that has lead to many great things for us, so I'm very glad I did it.

HarrietStyles · 06/12/2023 22:14

Yes, I worked abroad for 18 months when I was in my 20s. We’d been together for around 3/4 years at that point. 20 years later we are happily married with children. I think it did us the world of good - we got together young and so it gave us a little bit of breathing space to focus on our careers, see friends, travel …….. and to see if we missed each other and wanted to commit to a future together. Luckily we both did!

TeeBee · 06/12/2023 22:17

Absolutely! 6 months will fly by. If the relationship is worth anything, it will survive. Don't pass up the opportunity of professional experience for a few cuddles. Buy a teddy.

Clydagh · 06/12/2023 22:19

Absolutely. DH and I have both done this at different points. Don’t ever let a relationship restrict you.

theresnolimits · 06/12/2023 22:19

Yes, yes, yes. Six months (with visits) will go in an instant. Plus you have FaceTime etc.

You only regret the stuff you don’t do in life ( an oldie here).

CrushingOnRubies · 06/12/2023 22:23

I love Hong Kong! So yes in a heartbeat

RaininSummer · 06/12/2023 22:49

Do it. If the relationship doesn't survive, as alluded to above, then it wasn't strong enough for the long haul anyway. However, 6 months isn't long and plenty of families have that separation for work and cope.

Jztbrzzsy · 06/12/2023 22:53

pplopplopplopp · 06/12/2023 21:52

But what about cuddles?

If you can't live without daily 'cuddles' for 6 months then maybe stay at home.

HeddaGarbled · 06/12/2023 22:59

New security law likely to be imposed in Hong Kong in 2024. Politically, things are changing. I’d be wary.

andyourpointiswhat · 06/12/2023 23:00

Absolutely. Go and enjoy!

Maddy70 · 06/12/2023 23:01

Of course! I was married and ŵorked in a different country for 8 months but you need to be on the same page doe this to be OK. It's challenging but also very doable

Bambooshoot · 07/12/2023 02:00

I live in HK, happy to answer any questions!

wannabetraveler · 07/12/2023 02:02

Cuddle a panda.

Go!!

coxesorangepippin · 07/12/2023 02:20

Hell yes

justjuggling · 07/12/2023 02:58

Wow, what an opportunity! Go for it. 6 months will fly by and the two week visits will be something lovely to look forward to.

LaurieStrode · 07/12/2023 02:59

Hell yes!!

Six months will fly by!

PenguinBall · 07/12/2023 03:39

100%. My then boyfriend went overseas after we'd been dating for 3.5 years, we were apart for 9 months and then I joined him. 8 years later and we're still overseas together!

DifficultBloodyWoman · 07/12/2023 04:01

Go! Go! Go!

I had a similar opportunity. I didn’t take it. I regret it.

Don’t be me!

Olika · 07/12/2023 05:18

Go! 6 months pass faster than you realise.

Sparehair · 07/12/2023 06:26

HeddaGarbled · 06/12/2023 22:59

New security law likely to be imposed in Hong Kong in 2024. Politically, things are changing. I’d be wary.

I mean, that ship has sailed. The 2024 law will largely be a local enshrinement of the existing Beijing implemented NSL which has been in place for a few years already. Has it changed HK? Yes. Is it likely to have any impact on the OP? Not unless she’s a teacher or works for an NGO.

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