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I need some opinions - do I carry on with this activity for son with ASD?

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TravellingSpoon · 04/12/2023 17:59

Was going to post in SN chat but it doesnt get much traffic and I really need opinions.

DS (16) attends a few club a week. One activity he attends he has been going for quite a while. Its a general sports club for children with various needs. Children come and go but there are some children like DS who have been going a while.

Over the last couple of months, its definitely got more popular, and its got quite busy, and therefore noisy. DS now wears ear defenders every week because he doesnt like the noise, wheras he didnt before. He also struggles with how busy it is, as its quite a small hall. There is only one session a week so he cant move classes.

I think we should stop going, because it is causing his some level of distress. I can tell he doesnt like it as much as he did. He is adamant he wants to carry on, but I think that is because its part of his routine that he doesnt want to break. I dont think he is going because he wants to iyswim. His level of understanding isnt enough to be able to explain to him, or him explain to me how he feels.

My plan was to tell a fib and say after Christmas it isnt on any more. I know it will cause him some stress and anxiety, but we can find another activity to do and then once we are over it it will be gone, rather than putting him through the stress of it every week just because he thinks he should.

WWYD?

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underneaththeash · 04/12/2023 18:37

Could you ask the organisers to do a second session. I doubt he's the only person who has the issue.

NameChange259 · 04/12/2023 18:48

Without knowing what kind of stress it causes it’s hard to say. He’s should of course. Advocate for himself, but it’s really hard to understand your own needs/consequences with asd.

how does his distress manifest post session? Does he need to take on less activity during the weekend?

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