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Noisy shitty noisy inconsiderate noisy neighbours driving me absolutely insane…

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KavvLar · 03/12/2023 00:00

Just a rant really. We’ve lived in our 50’s semi detached house for about 14 years, and for most of that time our adjoining neighbours were a quiet old couple. They moved on and sold the house to a private landlord who is now renting it out. A Romanian family moved in this summer, they are a couple with four children under 12.

They’re a pleasant family but super sociable and it’s becoming completely intolerable. It’s a very small house, two bedrooms and a box room, small bathroom, small kitchen and small sitting room, and they always have company, aunties and uncles and cousins knocking about - there’s always at least 4 extra adults and 4 extra children added in the mix. I have no idea how they all fit overnight.

They have no volume control. It is now 23:45 and it’s like all the adults are socialising by shouting at full volume at each other. They’re in and out and slamming doors and spilling out into the garden. That’s before they get started on the karaoke machine. During the day the kids climb up on the fence and sit on the top of it and basically bother us if we are in the garden, or if not they look into our house and comment on everything we own that they can see.

DH and I have both been round several times to ask them to keep it down. The parents don’t speak any English so the kids have to translate, in the end I resorted to using Google translate to write this down and hand it to them -

“It is very difficult to cope with some of the noise we can hear. We have lived here peacefully for many years and have never heard much through the walls from neighbours until you moved in. We've been trying to just cope with it, and get on with it, but realise that if we don't tell you, you won't know we can hear anything or how distressing it is becoming.

This is not a complaint about general playing and family noise - we understand that you have a large family and limited space, children will make noise, babies cry, and that is really no problem. We are struggling because we can hear everything and it's making us miserable - loud shouting of conversations, screaming, slamming, singing. This is often for long periods, very early in the morning, or late into the evening.

We were all woken at 6:40am today by the noise. It sounded like a lot of people just living life but shouting to each other at the top of their voices. There is still noise now at 10pm and the children can't sleep. Some of our family are very unwell and are often stuck here housebound and unable to escape the noise, which sounds like it's in the next room.

We are just politely asking please limit the noise where you can, and now you know how much we can hear, consider the time of day or night. We would be very grateful. In turn if we are disturbing you in any way, please let us know. “

This was two or three weeks ago. They apologised but the noise has just carried on and nothing has really changed. It’s always going to be like this with the amount of people they have in a tiny space. I’m getting to the point where it’s affecting my mental health, the kids aren’t sleeping well and it’s affecting them getting up in the morning. Just wanted to put out there the absolute misery of shitty inconsiderate neighbours, even though they are pleasant enough people the sheer lack of consideration is making me hate them.

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FreshWinterMorning · 03/12/2023 00:05

Oh bloody hell that sounds horrific I'm so sorry @KavvLar It sounds really bad. You could report them to the council, but apart from that, the only choice is to move.

If you have mentioned to them they are noisy and disruptive, and they said they will be quieter and then are not, you can only report them to the council, or leave. I am really sorry, I have no other advice. I feel your pain though as we have had a couple of horrific noisy neighbours in the past in homes we were happy in, and we were forced to move.

Edited to add... I just noticed it's a private landlord. DEFINITELY report it to them. If you don't know who they are, then report them to the council, and they will track the landlord down! Good luck!

flapjackfairy · 03/12/2023 00:07

Well surely they are breaking their leases rules by having so many people sleeping there so can you report it to the landlord . Lodge every complaint you can until they do something about it . It sounds grim so commiserations x

DcatAnnie · 03/12/2023 00:11

Can you complain to the landlord or real estate agent? They might not be happy to have so many extra people in the house so often.

MargaritaHargitaysLittleSister · 03/12/2023 00:13

Start keeping a diary, and where you can - record everything. You could try speaking to the landlord/managing agent once you have the proof

KavvLar · 03/12/2023 00:16

I wondered about that but I have no idea who the landlord is or how to find that out. Maybe I could do a land registry search or something.

The guy who is renting seemed to be part of the crew that were doing the house up (which is another story, it had a complete renovation, with eight weeks of banging and drilling, morning noon and night, seven days a week, with me having to steam round and tell the building crew to stop every time it was outside the time they were allowed to be making noise).

So I think he may have some personal connection with whoever owns it. I could complain to the council but I’m worried as we still have to live here, and wouldn’t we have to declare it if we then decided to sell?. Not sure why I’m bothered, I don’t know how we would sell it with the noise they make, we’d have to ask them to be extra quiet during viewings 😡

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Moveoverdarlin · 03/12/2023 00:17

I’d contact the letting agent or landlord. I can’t imagine a landlord being to happy with 10 people regularly staying there, the wear and tear on the property would be considerable.

KavvLar · 03/12/2023 15:10

Started up at 7:30am again and still going. Am twitching slightly. Thanks all for the support yesterday

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TheThingIsYeah · 03/12/2023 15:26

Sounds terrible OP, but if they don't speak English then I doubt it's a regular tenancy so that route won't work. There was an article on the news the other day about CoL and people having to rent smaller properties. Increasing the population the size of Birmingham every two years doesn't help either. So this problem will only get worse. And anyone living in a terrace/semi and thinking phew this doesn't affect me, well it don't for now, but it will do now once dear old Mabel next door dies and the house gets rented out.

Anyway, I'm sure someone will be along shortly to accuse you of the R word and suggest you are the problem.

chocopuffs · 05/12/2023 20:49

OP this sounds extremely similar to a situation we were in a few years ago. We also lived nextdoor to a family with four kids but they constantly had other family members and friends staying there, sometimes there were 16 of them staying in a two-bed property. So they were always spilling into the garden, shouting, throwing stuff over our fence and generally being a nightmare. And the same situation with the kids having to translate. To be honest, I ended up pursuing it with the landlord and then the council's property licensing team. It depends where you are but our council is pretty proactive on licensing issues/HMOs and overcrowding so I would recommend considering that route. I am sending sympathy, it is really really stressful.

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