Leaving twins alone?

[OneToThree]

12y 11m old. 7pm-9.30pm. Would you leave them home alone? No concerns with them messing about.

Yes. They can presumably ring someone if there’s a problem and are happy to be left. I leave DS1 (11) for about 90 minutes now with strict instructions as to what to do if there’s a big problem. (Outside, go to any of our lovely neighbours)

Are you joking?!
Unless something you are not telling us how have you not done this before.
My 13 year old has been left alone many times since she was about 10. She is very independent at 13, cooks dinner, goes into the city with friends, travels around our city by herself. Are you mollycoddling them for a reason?

Of course! I'm amazed you've got them to nearly 13 having never left them!

You know your children, for those saying why haven't you done it before, every child is different and ready at a different age. NSPCC give the same advice, and don't specify an age for this reason. I think they are an appropriate age and if there is a neighbour or friend nearby for emergencies, I think it would be OK. Ours are 13 (who is fine about being left alone) and 12. Our 12 year old has been incredibly nervous of being alone or just with a sibling in the house, so we've had to take it very easy. We can now go out in the daytime, but haven't done more than an hour in the evening yet. You do what's right for you.

Yes absolutely at their ages. I have a ds 11 who I am happy to leave at home while I take his sister to her activities. He can be left for up to 3 hours without a problem and has his phone to call me if needed. I wouldn’t worry at all at 13

Yes.

Ok, no need to be shitty 🤣
I leave them in the daytime all the time. I’ve never left them in the evening before as normally out for whole eve until 11/12 so this is a new type of event.
Would you leave a 13 year old home alone until midnight then?

Thanks, I’ll do it.

Twins yes, triplets no.
12 years, 11 months yes but 13 years, 3 months no.

I left mine home alone in the evenings from 12, but only as late as he was comfortable. Started off wanting me back before dark (easy in the summer!) then before he went to bed so around 10pm. Then he started saying he was fine to take himself to bed as long as I was coming back, then one day he said he didn't want to stay at his dad's and would rather stay home alone so we tried it with dad round the corner and it was fine, he was 14 then. Go at their pace but don't assume they will be worried.

Gnomegnomegnome what a strange answer!

I would, if they are quite sensible. I could leave my eldest son at that age but not him and his brother because they use to fight. Brother was also fine in his own.
I was often left in charge if my 2 little sister from age 12. I was always sensible, because I knew what the consequences would be from my parents if something went wrong.
Not necessarily my fault but I would have got the blame

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They’re taking the piss out of my original post but I think the fact they’re twins is important cause it’s not one looking after the other and I wanted to give exact age (nearly 13) cause if I’d put 13 they could have been nearly 14.

Everytime I post you get a variety of kind and arsey replies but thanks to all the helpful people.

I completely understand your caution @OneToThree

We have left our DC in the evening on occasion, however the first time we did they were 12 and 16 and I did feel slightly anxious as we were out until midnight

Yes, it's not a problem. Although I feel like twins possibly cooperate more when it comes to doing stuff they should not do...

Yes I would op. Sorry people are being shitty

Yes absolutely. Wouldn’t think twice. I was babysitting for money at 13 till the early hours. It was very boring and lonely.
I assume the pair of them will fix a snack and get into a game so will have a lovely time.