Loneliness

[Raindrops22]

I'm 29 years old and I literally have no friends. When I see groups of girls it makes me sad that I don't have anyone, I would be happy just to have one friend who would like to spend time with me have girly chats and go out and do things together. I feel so embarrassed that I have no friends, I'm 29 and I feel like every other person my age has lots of friends. I don't have the confidence to go to groups and in all honesty I don't really have any interests because it has been so long since I have done anything that now I don't even know what my interests are. My confidence and motivation is at an all time low. I have a very loving husband and a beautiful little boy that I am immensely grateful for but I just want a friend that I can laugh with and spend time with. I have tryed to reconnect with people I was friendly with many many years ago but they are not interested and have there own friends that they spend there free time with. Surely I'm not going to spend the rest of my life with no friends to call my own.

Have you tried baby/toddler groups at all? I struggle to talk to people but I forced myself and now I do feel more confident to talk to random people. Sorry you feel this way x

@Raindrops22

As suggested- any groups for baby you can go to? Local children's centres normally have feee groups? Library? They also have singing groups or perhaps even coffee mornings?
Of course you can be greatful for baby boy and his company ♥️ but not quite the same as a friend 😊

Peanut was good for me and I got to know two mums from that - not close as such but still two mums to talk to and spend time with when we can ..

I went to a baby group for a few weeks but I felt very insecure it's embarrassing but I don't know what to talk about. I litterally look after my son, keep the house clean and tidy and make sure my husband has everything he needs. It sounds silly doesn't it but because that's all I do I don't no how to have a conversation because I have nothing to tell them x

When you're having small talk I don't think you need to have anything to tell them. I feel like the sort of questions you ask and get asked at play groups are

How old is your child
What's their name
Do they sleep at night
How has your week been
What are you upto over the weekend

Peanut and mush is great for making mum friends you already have something in common so you can just talk about your kids.

@Raindrops22

Oh my goodness I'm sure that's not true! 🙏🏼
Do you have favourite shows? Films? Books? Hobbies? What was your job when you worked? Where do you live? Are you interested in the history of it? Local pram walking groups?

A lot of mums talk about their kids- that's a great starting point - I often talk about how hard something about it is 😂 🤦🏽‍♀️

With peanut- u could probably say you struggle with these things and someone may reach out x

I think I overthink situations and that's probably my lack of confidence. What is peanut and mush? x

They apps - a bit like dating apps but to find friends- have a little browse - peanut is free
I'm not sure about mush

Ok thank you I will have a look at those. I didn't know things like that existed. I've only ever seen groups like that for pensioners which made me think I am the only young person without friends. I was actually a massive tv/film buff until duggie and iggle piggle took over my tv 😂 x

@Raindrops22 best thing I ever did was give my iPad over to my my toddler
Means I can still watch my favourites over and over until she understands what's on the tv 🤦🏽‍♀️

Yes great idea! I will need to invest in a heavy duty case, we are going through the throwing everything phase. x