Texting every day after first date now nothing = bad or just calming down?

[Celia24]

I've been acquaintances with a guy for a year and have always thought him to be lovely. We recently went on our first date and it was wonderful. We got on like a house in fire & we kept extended the date to different activities.

At the end he said 'I've had a great time, Celia. I'd like to see you a second time. I don't know if you want to see me again but you can think about it and let me know'. Then a lovely hug and cheek kiss.

We started messaging as soon as we were on our respective transports home and then constantly for 4 days. Tbh he drove the contact mostly but I've been very responsive, even though I knew I should probably slow it down

Now 24 hours have gone by without a peep, breaking the pattern. I know he's just at home before he travels to visit family in 2 days.

Reason to worry? I don't mind a bit of a pull back but I don't want to make him think I'm happy to be ignored either.

Have you got a second date arranged yet? If not, have you told him you’d like to see him again?

I think it sounds a bit like love bombing and now the ghosting part is starting, but I could just be being overly cynical.

If you haven’t confirmed a second date then message him to suggest a date and see what happens. If he’s slow to respond or seems keen but doesn’t actually make any firm plans, then you’ve got your answer.

Agree - look to confirm a second date.

And he may just be at home, but who knows if he has a lot on at work, or his mum is ill, or he’s woken up and realised how much he was texting and that perhaps he should step back and let you lead more in case he was being over keen…

This has just happened to me constant messaging he didn’t pull back as such - but when I asked about a further date indirectly didn’t respond to this and ignored the questions just ask to save yourself wasting any further time I’m trying to let this one fizzle out as he hasn’t suggested a third date and I don’t want a pen pal