Going from 1 to 2 kids

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I've just got under 4 weeks to go. I know its going to be hard work but worth it. I'm going to do the exact same routine I did with my son.

Would like to know others experiences :)

Thank you.

It really depends on the age gap. Also don't get too caught up on the same routine, all babies are different and it may not work the same for you.

I'm just going to see how it goes. If it needs tweaking or adjusting it be no problem. I didn't do anything too strict. Just set bath bedtime one. When she's here my son will be 20 months.

I thought I had it sussed when having my second as I'd got the hang of the routine with my first. Second child was the polar opposite and what worked for my first didn't for the second 🙈 that being said there are lots of positives and I found that I didn't worry about all the little things so much and spent more time enjoying my second rather than the overthinking I did with the first. And seeing their relationships develop between them was really lovely. Take each day as it comes and don't forget to enjoy the good times 😀

Yeah im definitely prepared for anything 🤣 I'm going to try the same routine I can always adjust it if I need to. I just can't wait for the newborn cuddles 🥰 yeah I'll definitely less stressed and worried. Definitely won't be overthinking things either. Oh I'll definitely enjoy it 😊

Divide and conquer. Basically, dh did eldest and I did baby, for the most part, or vice versa. It meant that no one was neglected and they each got our full attention. If you have toddler home with you during the day, frankly lots of screen time initially to get yourself settled into the new normal. It was a bit different because my older one was in reception when younger one was born, so we were on our own most of the day, except afternoons (lots of tv! or playground/walks). Weekends dh did lots with her when I just needed to sit on the sofa feeding.

Agree with divide and conquer. I was lucky as DH took 5 months paternity so he was around in the early days when I was establishing breastfeeding, was able to entertain DC1 etc. I had a bigger gap of 3.5 years so DC1 was in nursery/school and mat leave was a bit more like the first with just the baby to look after during the day.
We couldn't manage to stick with the same routines as DC1 though - I had DC1 doing naps at home but it was unfair to be stuck going back to the house with a toddler so we would just spend the day out with both of them and DC2 got dragged around napping in the carrier or buggy. Even now DC2 is 19m I would be doing more afternoon activities with her like I did with DC1 but I can't as I need to do the school run for DC1, so she gets fewer activities than DC1 did and just potters in the playroom while I go over spellings and homework with DC1.

Much much easier than 0 to 1.

But not this: I'm going to do the exact same routine I did with my son. that would be literally impossible because I have our eldest DC to care for too. And I didn’t have time for newborn snuggles either. My toddler wanted to climb on me and play etc. I have a 5mo and a potty training 28mo.