Loss of a friendship.

[BirthdayRainbow]

I lost touch with a friend from school but have been back in touch for the last 20 years. When it was good it was great but there were times when she made me feel rubbish in many different ways. Last time we met up she said some really unkind things to me and I cut my visit short. A couple of texts back and forth since.

Very shortly afterwards I became life threateningly ill and have had other difficult situations going on in my life. She knows nothing of this and she hasn't messaged me either for a few months.

I find myself feeling sad about the loss but I'm also really upset with how she spoke to me. I'm nervous to let her back in in case she hurts me again or rejects me but I find myself feeling sad. I'm coping fine without her but with some aspects of what has happened she would be great. Others not so much.

How did you learn to let go of a friendship after a row when you occasionally think about them and miss them?

I had a really good friend and then for various reasons the friendship fell apart; I got back in contact with her a few years later but it wasn’t the same and I’ve let it drift again as I just found that I could no longer trust her and the hurt over the fall out was still there. We were never going to get back to when the friendship was really good and I now accept that people come in and out of your life

Thank you. It's hard as we've known each other since we were teenagers but I'm starting to really think that they good doesn't make up for the bad feelings I get from her actions at times.

I could never have options everything I said was wrong.i was so good to hear I bought her things through the years,and what for.i miss her but I know this is best thing for us all alot as happend but it's wrong what she's doing seeing my son and grandkids when I don't.told her to choose then she blanks me out like am nothing I hate what they are doing they all deserve eachother.so called son he's 30 but he's still not grown up.and so called friend I could never have kids and finding out that at a young age was devastating for me,then lost my dad at 14 years old,I have never had anyone to talk to.would like to find people with similar to me to talk to.

It's so difficult.

I've heard from the friend I talked about. Seems to have been a misunderstanding. Not sure what will happen.