I am 36 and used to have so many friends. 80% made during my time at university.
My childhood friends unfortunately cut me off when I told them I had become Muslim. Even though my parents are and they knew that..... Even though our parents knew each other etc. They still turned out to be bigots. I tried to make excuses for them but they literally unfriended me and stop responding to my messages to catch up etc.
I went to uni and made friends who I thought were life long friends.
6 BFFS and all was grand after uni everyone got married but we still met up but we all moved to different parts of the country then one by one they all moved abroad. We all have our own families so talks and catch ups are very infrequent and of course we have only met up in person once since they all went abroad 6+years ago.
I have found it lonely and now with kids I want to make friends in person. I attend all the mothers groups and no one wants to be my friend. I go to the park with DC and try to be friendly and smiley. People talk to me. But nothing more.
I gave the ladies at the toddler group (the organiser) my mobile no. If they do anything and she said yes they do get togethers events, travel, attractions etc. They never invited me before. I told them I had no friends or family and moved to the area recently. ( by the way they are all non muslim).
Then4 months ago a new lady moved to the area and her DC similar age to mine. They took her under their wing and did so much for her and she is already fast friends with the others they met up for events and other social activities for the kids like Forest school no one told me and by the time I found out it was too late for me to book DC on. They openly talk about things after the fact with little disregard for me.
I was hoping to have made 1 or 2 friends and maybe poeple who have kids similar age to mine so we could meet up. Have a little playfriend. But nope.
I moved over 3 years ago and apart from my OH I have no social life. Family and parents lives 4+hrs away. So we make the effort to visit them and DC cousins as much as we can.
I am starting to wonder if it is me. Not saying it is becuase I am Muslim. I am very approachable I am chatty and despite being introverted I push myself to be friendly and talkative. But not sure what it could be. I even spoke to my BBFs about it and of course they said it is them not me..
I find myself really missing the days gone when me and my friends were together often and I had a social life. My Best friends are from all backgrounds English/Asian/Greek/Arab/American and all different personalities.
I wrack my brain about it often very often why I can't make new friends while others can and have done so. I feel sad about not having childhood friends as well. So many people have friends from school and they have become parents together and now their kids are friends etc.
Not sure what I am expecting writing this. Get it off my chest. suggeations? I don't know.