How would you split this holiday rental?

[TheTwirlyPoos]

2 families away for a week. 4 bedrooms one of which is downstairs. All rooms have one double bed in.

Family one - DH, DW, 6 year old, 3 year old.

Family two - DH, DW, 15 month old.

We are interested in your thoughts!

Stick with the plan 2 rooms each 50/50 split. You can't go changing the agreement after you've booked.

Next time compare the cost of two separate places a 3 and a 2 bed rather than a 5 or 2 x 2 bed.

That would be fine if they were paying 25%.

Whatever. I only go away with people I like and want to spend time with. If one room suited us, which I said it would, I’d be happy to pay half still.

Our family automatically goes halves no matter who gets what

Honesty there is no money argument here. We'd be very happy to pay more.

I'm just worried about everyone being woken at the crack of dawn, so it seems to me it makes sense for them to have the downstairs room with the the 14 month old but I don't want to pressurise anyone!

Both families have 2 rooms.

Don't over complicate

Even if the other family have the 14-month old in the downstairs room, they should have one of the upstairs rooms too so that the parents can take it in turns being with the baby / getting a decent night's sleep.

Family one get the three upstairs bedrooms and pay 3/4. That way the kids who've never shared don't share and they are all on the same floor.
Family two all share the downstairs bedroom. This will minimise disruption to the upstairs people when the 15 month old wakes up at 4am. This family pays 1/4 of the cost.

Have you asked them op?

We didn't share with DS once he was over 12 months old.I'm a light sleeper and meant no sleep for me.
The baby could maybe sleep in the living room.
But if you ask them to only have one bedroom you pay 75% even if they protest.

My 2 children never shared a room but they did on holidays.

They might not want to share with the 14mth old. They've got a baby used to sleeping on their own, why change it?

Stick to what you've agreed, or they could end up feeling pissed off if they are shoehorned into one room, esp if storage is an issue.

Room 1 upstairs - you and DH
Room 2 upstairs - your two kids. Early riser told to go to TV/you when wakes
Room 3 upstairs - your friends with baby intercom thing
Room 4 downstairs - your friend's baby (when wakes their Mum can go down and breastfeed in that room/cosleep on the bed if they choose to)

Or potentially Mum and baby downstairs by choice and their DH gets bed upstairs to himself (or other way round pending how feeding).

Or if your waker can reach TV from downstairs, your two downstairs until first wakes up and goes into lounge.

Pay per room, 25% each. If you're happy to pay 75% to have 3 rooms and they're happy to share with the 15 month old then no problem 🤷‍♀️

It doesn’t matter what any of us think, why aren’t you just asking the other family? I think though you should pay 75% if they agree just to have the one room.

I wondered if we would be out of order to suggest one room for them (obviously would expect to pay more than half)

If you suggested you get all three upstairs rooms and they get just the one downstairs room for three of them but offered to pay 75%, that is probably ok but if they don’t want to do that, it’s perfectly reasonable. If you are offering only a bit ‘more than half’ then I would say that’s not reasonable.

Honesty there is no money argument here. We'd be very happy to pay more.

Are you happy to pay 75%?

If so, suggest it-they can say no. Don’t be pissed odd if they don’t want to though-I wouldn’t fancy sharing one bedroom with a baby all holiday. They’re going to have loads of stuff as well whereas you’ll have three bedrooms to put yours in.

Thanks everyone. Was just looking for ideas really and how other people would work it.

Ill talk to them.

What have the toddler family said they'd like?

Have a chat and come up with an amicable share out of rooms to suit everyone's needs.

I know it's been said before, but there is no way I would ever share accommodation with anyone apart from my immediate family. I know it probably depends on the location/availability etc. but if going with others it is separate apartments all the way for us, the need to escape and have a bit of private family time outweighs the cost. Villas and multi occupation be damned!

We all wanted to go away together so we can spend time in the evenings as a four, we rarely get the chance much now we all have children. We are all really excited :-)

If I were the family with two kids, I'd offer to pay two thirds, but if I were the family with one, I'd insist on paying half, so I'm not helpful, just a lifelong people pleaser 🤣

I'd just ask them.

I think both plans make sense so just see what their preference is.

The only problem I can see with them having the downstairs room is if they put their baby down at 7ish and you want a grown up evening with dinner etc. you might wake the baby up? But it depends on layout.

2 rooms each. 50/50

3yo on floor in parents room on a readybed.

6yo has a room

14mo in with parents in cot

Downstairs room isn't used as a bedroom because it's not sensible to use it as such. Can be a play room or reading room for all to use, and next time you holiday together you check the room and bed configuration works properly before booking.
Cost split 55% to family 1, 45% to family 2. It's irrational to split more unevenly than that because sleeping arrangements are not the only factor in a holiday house.