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Neighbour issues

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Starshine08 · 23/11/2023 20:59

So I need to get this down for someone to read, and for any advice I would be ever so so so grateful. I have a wonderful and kind neighbour who thinks I need to hear his music, which I very very loud, at ridiculous hours. As I am typing this it has been ongoing for a couple of hours. Last yr my DH called the noise team out after trying to speak to him and it did calm down. But then it's started up again! My issue is, as it's a party wall to kids bedroom, it's hard to ignore, in fact you can hear through the whole house as he has this wonderful large speaker! What would you do? It's been like this for a couple of months and we have tried to be calm, and let it run its course, but unfortunately it's not working. Our issues is he will know it's come from us, even if you deny it point blank.

Any advice from anyone would be so grateful! Has anyone been in a similar position? WWYD?

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Littlefish · 23/11/2023 21:21

What happened when you tried to speak to him?

TeenLifeMum · 23/11/2023 21:24

Pop round and ask him to turn it down because it’s so loud in your home it’s keeping dc awake.

TheBirdintheCave · 23/11/2023 21:38

Our neighbour has attached his tv to the party wall and we hear it when he plays bass music or action movies. We went round the first three times it happened but that did nothing.

After giving up trying to reason with him we now bang on the wall whenever it happens and he turns it down. I still find it strange that he doesn't respond to polite requests to keep the volume down but will respond to banging 🤷🏻‍♀️

LuckyCharmz · 23/11/2023 21:38

Does he consider your family noisy, and do it as some sort of revenge?

My db has massive speakers, and hates his neighbours dogs barking, that’s the sort of petty thing he would do.

Nagado · 23/11/2023 21:40

Is he basically reasonable but just a bit thick, or does he not give a shit? Because I think it makes a big difference. If he’s reasonable, ask him to come into your house so he can hear how loud his music is and see what he can do to minimise the noise. Things like moving the speakers, not playing above a certain volume after 7pm, etc. And tell him that if it doesn’t improve you will get the noise team involved again, which you really don’t want to do.

If he doesn’t give a shit, knock on his door, tell him that his behaviour is unacceptable and that you’ll be reporting him to the noise team first thing in the morning. Why do you care if he knows a complaint has come from you? You’re the one who is being inconvenienced here. It’s him who should be feeling awkward and embarrassed, not you.

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Starshine08 · 24/11/2023 07:24

So the last time, we called round like 5 times, last time before we complained to the noise team I got told to f* off! So I did just that. He is not reasonable enough for me to invite into my home, as unfortunately his excuse is he takes drugs, and has mental health issues!

I wouldn't believe we are noisy, other neighbors have not complained about us before.

I know I shouldn't care, but I do, I worry about the reaction after. They have kids at the property too, so bang on bedtime for them, which is later than my kids bedtime, if goes off. Well has for the last couple of days, goodness knows what Friday night holds!

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Santaiswashinghissleigh · 24/11/2023 07:27

Contact the council.. And environmental health. If he gets abusive ring the police. You could ask the council for a welfare check since he claims he has mh issues. They prob respond quicker than you being worried about your mh caused by the noise... Ime...

FrustratedMumHelp · 24/11/2023 07:29

What a prick. Especially as he has his own kids in the house too. Keep a diary and keep going round. Its obviously coming from you the complaints. Fuck him. Why do you care he knows? He doesnt even care about his own kids. If hes taking drugs in the house whist kids are there, that needs reporting too. Why does everyone use the MH excuse to get away with bad behaviour

CesareBorgia · 24/11/2023 07:31

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user1471538283 · 24/11/2023 07:48

You need to tell him again and keep on reporting him and logging it each and every time. If he rents from a local authority report him to them as well.

In my experience with noisy neighbours they know they are noisy but they just don't care. They also hate noise from anyone else.

I don't get it. We've all got to live together with means consideration.

I moved after only 17 months and my health was ruined. If you can please consider moving.

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Starshine08 · 24/11/2023 08:16

I'm glad others agree with me, that's it's too much. I know what needs to be done. As I can't continue like this and maybe another warning letter might just wake him up!

Unfortunately my property is not housing association owned. If we could leave we would.

I've just had to deal it with far too long, been more patient than ever.

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TheBirdintheCave · 24/11/2023 10:18

FrustratedMumHelp · 24/11/2023 07:29

Edited

Yep, this was Crazy Neighbour's defense for her INSANELY loud music when we lived in a block of flats a few years ago (and is the reason we have zero tolerance for noise from current neighbour).

It was a 1930s block and the ridiculous bass would echo up the chimney. She was ground floor and we were third floor and we could hear the lyrics to the songs. The flat between us thought it was us until we asked them to go and listen at her door. We made SO many complaints over the year, first to her but stopped when she started threatening us, and then to the council, our landlord and the block management company with the hope of getting her evicted but then Covid happened so it only came to fruition when we bought a house to escape from it.

She had beef with other neighbours too and had threatened them as well amongst other things like fighting with her daughter and kicking her out, leaving broken glass in the car park and painting over the glass in her kitchen and bathroom windows.

The irony was that she worked as a mental health nurse 😂

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Starshine08 · 24/11/2023 17:23

You must be so relieved you escaped. It's more the fear of what happens after that scares me! I guess I'm not good with confrontation. I actually find myself avoiding my house, making sure I'm busy or out when I know it gets too much and that's not fair at all.

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SunsetApple · 24/11/2023 17:55

Keep reporting to the council and keep a log of days, times and the effect it has on you. Environmental health can confiscate your neighbours equipment if he continues.

TheBirdintheCave · 25/11/2023 18:19

Starshine08 · 24/11/2023 17:23

Yes it was brilliant to get away. We're in a new build end terrace now and our bedroom doesn't connect to anyone. It's bliss.

I know what you mean about confrontation. I am no good at it as I'm autistic and whatever I say never comes out right. Also, people who make that level of noise are generally either not sane or not reasonable so aren't likely to politely apologise and lower the sound 🤦🏻‍♀️

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