When is the last time you had you time and how often

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I'm just wondering how often do people have alone time ? Is there ever a time your not needed/wanted? Is even getting peaceful bath/shower a luxury? Or do you get a good amount of you time on a regular bases ?

I'm on this thread and reading. But I still have people demanding me, constantly and having to do stuff for others. I'm never left alone

I work 4 days a week and so have one day to myself when the 3DC are at school and DH at work. I love and need this time. There are normally various chores to do, but I’m happy doing them and just being on my own. I feel it balances me and allows me to cope with the remainder of the week which is v busy with family, work and social stuff.

Every day I drove FS to college, have day to myself then collect him between 4-5 O'Clock. DH is holed up upstairs in his home office WFH or out at work.

The last time was before DC, so over 11 years ago 😭

In theory I should have lots - youngest child is a teen. But I seem to get constant phone calls and interruptions - I feel like Ma Boswell from Bread!

This thread is bringing me back to something ridiculous I remember when my girls were small...I must have had so little time on my own, that I genuinely got excited when I had strapped them both in their car seats, closed the doors and then had a blissful walk in silence round the car to the drivers seat. I guess in hindsight you can realise that must have been a tough bit of your life, when I was dreaming of walking 10 steps alone. Or going on a food shop on my own. That was heaven.

Everyday. I work 2 days a week, do a day volunteering. DH works full time running his business and my one adult DC lives abroad.

Never, and I'm struggling! Stay at home mum to a toddler and a five year old who finishes school at 3pm, plus I'm a freelancer working 30 hours a week crammed into naptimes, evenings and weekends. I am an introvert and desperately need my alone time to recharge but if I'm not caring for the kids and doing housework, I'm working. I can't remember the last time I went for drinks with a friend or even had a long bath. Downtime is the 5 hours sleep I get at night 🫠 I'm hanging on to the hope that when youngest starts pre-school I can transfer my working hours to 9-3pm and claw back my evenings!!

@arethereanyleftatall lol! I'm using my pee break to scroll Mumsnet. Even I'm allowed a 2 minute break 😂

Well DH works (away from the home, like in the office) and the DC are grown and have left home. I work at home part time. I have lots of time to myself. More than ever now the kids have flown the nest. Hardly had time to breathe when they were at home, with all the school shit, and extra curricular activities and working 30 hours a week myself (not from home.) I don't know how I did it now!

Hmm hard to say really. I mean my kids are older teens now but I work very long hours running my own business and now is my busiest time of year so not loads currently but quite a lot throughout the year. My DD is at uni and DS works fulltime in an apprenticeship so they are fairly self sufficient. When they were younger I didn't get much me time at all.

I do a hobby once a week and I have one day where my youngest is at preschool and I don't work. I end up doing housework the majority of the day but try to grab an hour or so to have lunch and relax

Mine are young adults now, so l am thankful for my time alone.
It was very different when they were much younger, as l was a lone parent.

About two months ago. There is always someone in here as dh works from home mostly, and we have four kids in and out. I also wfh so even if dh has gone into London I'm at work anyway.
This thread is pertinent as I've been off sick this week with a horrible ear infection. There have been people in and out all week and no peace. Today was the first day I was going to be in on my own and I was looking forward to it. Dd realised last night she has two inset days today and tomorrow, so will be in after all. I love her and she's no bother really but I'm gutted as I just wanted to be on my own!!

Unless you are a single parent of young children, or have other caring responsibilities that only you can fulfil, without any support or paid childcare, and a father that is 100% unavailable that shouldn't be the case. Are there any changes you could make to carve out an hour a day to yourself?

I get 4 hours a week to myself while commuting but at the moment I tend to have to spend that time working on my laptop. I am generally always working, sleeping or looking after the kids. I do manage maybe one night out a month while my husband does double bedtime alone and I see a friend or go to the cinema. I'm hoping it will get easier as the kids get older.

At the moment, almost never. DC1 can’t/ won’t go to school so is here all the time, DC2 sleeps in my bed so even going to bed isn’t alone time, DC1 doesn’t sleep so is still awake when I go to bed. I try to set an extra early alarm so I have peace and quiet for 20 minutes in the early morning to drink a tea, I get 10 minutes in the morning and 10 in the afternoon, walking back from dropping DC2 at school/ going to pick her up. I am an introvert who needs time on my own and I do a job that involves interacting with many people at the same time for over 13hrs so this is hard.