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Daughter has no female role models - will it impact her?

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Coshei · 22/11/2023 12:40

Hello,

I'm not sure where to post this really. I'm raising my daughter on my own and while she is a happy child overall I have noticed a change and I am now wondering if this is "normal" for 6 year old or if it's got a different cause. she has started to emphasise gender more. For example when someone asks her what she wants to be when she grows up she specifically stresses that she wants to be a "girl doctor", or a "girl police". Not that this is bad, but she didn't do that before and just mentioned jobs or hobbies etc. I mentioned it to a friend and he said that my daughter did not have any female role models in her life, and that this might be impacting her. To be honest I had never thought about it much, but she really does not have a real role model, so I am wondering if this might be having a negative impact on her.
She has female teachers etc but nobody close to her, apart from her grandmother that she sees on a semi-regular basis, but I'm not sure if this is enough?
I appreciate that this is probably a stupid question, but I'm not sure where to start.

OP posts:
SunnySkeg · 23/11/2023 10:49

Angela Merkel may not be everyone's cup of tea politically, but she certainly shows that girls can aspire to do anything.

fruitbrewhaha · 23/11/2023 10:50

Here’s some German women role models.

https://www.deutschland.de/en/topic/knowledge/women-in-research-portraits-of-top-scientists

https://www.mpg.de/female-pioneers-of-science

I just looked for scientists as a starter as I know Germany has many renowned scientists.

There will be plenty in other industries etc.

Rebel Women is a good book too.

Cutting-edge research with strong women

Five outstanding female researchers and their links with Germany

https://www.deutschland.de/en/topic/knowledge/women-in-research-portraits-of-top-scientists

steppemum · 23/11/2023 10:51

I would say that it does matter.
We have had positive reinforcement in the classroom for decades for exactly this reason.
We make sure that photos, pictures and books represent everyone in all roles. Both male and female and also of a wide variety of ethnic backgrounds and disabilities.

I would say take a look around your home. Look at the toys, the books, the pictures on the wall. Does she see people reflected back to her in all different situations?
Particularly look at the books you have. Is she seeing girls and boys doing lots of different things in those books?

Thinking about how you talk about people. If you unconsciously alwyas say Policeman and Fireman, then it is time to change your own language to Police Officer and Firefighter.

but don't get too overly serious about it, or stress about it. She is already seeing a different type of family and living by being brought up by a single Dad, so she sees you do things that are not stereotypical.
Give her lots of positive encouragement.

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